Everest University Online
1. Define one change you would like to make in yourself. It might be a behavior or anything about yourself that you would like to alter. I would like to be more outgoing and socialize with others on a more casual basis. I would like to be able to hold conversation with others and be able to entertain guest. 2. Write a specific goal for making the change, being sure your goal is realistic and fair. Use affirming, motivational language in your goal. For example, “I will show my best friends that I am paying attention when they talk to me.”
I will set aside one day a week to invite a family member over to practice being more social and entertaining. Instead of staying to the back or out of sight when we have company over I will make myself more available, in order to become more comfortable with a group of people. 3. Observe or think of others who are models for what you want to be. Write down what they do. For example, “Tracy nods a lot and repeats back what others say so they know she is listening.” My husband invites family and friends over and entertains them by making them comfortable with conversation, games and food. It seems all natural to him. I would like to try these things with confidence. 4. What context or setting is required for you to achieve your goal? For example, “I will talk with my friends in private, distraction-free settings.” I will come out of my comfort zone and put forth effort to join in the entertainment that my husband provides for friends and family and learn how to enjoy and engage in adult socializing. 5. Identify potential barriers to the change.
Not making a commitment, self-sabotage, and I are potential barriers.