Part A: Self Assessment
The terminal values I have are happiness, recognition, and prosperity. My primary goal is to live a happy life. When I look back at my life, I want to feel that I have lived a happy one. I tell myself that I want to die smiling, and if there are lots of people missing me, I will have lived good life. As it can be seen from wanting to have people missing me, recognition from the people around me is also a very important terminal value. My definition of recognition is to be loved and admired from my friends and family, mostly for my character as well as ability and achievement. This puts me in the category of high need for affiliation, which is true. It is my philosophy that no one is perfect, and no one can live alone. People need each other, and I am no exception. This high desire to gain recognition motivates me to put in a lot of effort to polish my character and ability. The need for recognition can also be explained by the fact that I consider dependability, courtesy, and honesty as most important instrumental values. I’ve always wanted to be someone people can count on, especially when they are going through hard times. When my friends have a problem, I try everything I could do for them. And their gratitude towards my contribution makes me feel really good, about myself and my relationship with my friends. Moreover, I always try to be courteous. I think being well mannered and considerate is a key factor of courtesy and I do my best not to hurt others’ feelings or annoy them. It is also important to be honest, especially with people you have known for a long time. Lies turn out to be lies after time. It takes a lot of effort and time to build trust, but it can be broken even with the smallest lie. In terms of honesty, I try to remember the quote saying ‘Characters build slowly, but it can be torn down with great swiftness.’ I know how fragile trust can be, so I put honesty as one of my top instrumental values. I am of belief that being dependable, courteous and honest could fulfill my terminal goal to gain recognition from people. The third terminal value that I have is prosperity. Many tend to feel somewhat negative against the desire to earn a decent living, labeling it with words like greed or obsession with money. However, wealth is a positive, as well as essential, element of a happy life. I do agree with the fact that money cannot guarantee satisfaction in life. It’s just that a certain amount of wealth is required. The desire for prosperity came from my childhood experience. When I was seven, my family moved to Korea from US. My father was planning to start a business in Gwang-ju. However, my family couldn’t afford a place to stay there. So for a year my father and I stayed in Gwang-ju, while my mother and brother stayed in Seoul, in our relatives’ houses. During those times I couldn’t help thinking, ‘If we had more money, the family would have been able to stay together.’ Ever since, wealth has been a pretty important value to me. My high need for affiliation also affects the way I communicate. Assessment shows that I have an attentive and animated communication style. Since I care for others a lot, I listen carefully in order to understand them. I am a firm believer of ‘Never fail to know that if you are doing all the talking, you are boring somebody,’ so I usually let the other people do the talking. The same applies to people who aren’t speaking in a group. I ask them questions to get them involved and hear them out. However, being attentive doesn’t mean I underestimate the importance of expressing myself. I seek ways to express myself affectively. As one way, I use a lot of animated gestures such as using hands, shrugging shoulders, and raising eyebrows. This helps me express my thoughts and emotions visually. I feel that verbal communication is somewhat insufficient. For example, I look into the person’s eyes in conversations to show sincerity. These non-verbal communication...
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