Define one change you would like to make in yourself. It might be a behavior or anything about yourself that you would like to alter. To be able to control my anger better.
Write a specific goal for making the change, being sure your goal is realistic and fair. Use affirming, motivational language in your goal. For example, “I will show my best friends that I am paying attention when they talk to me.”
I will count to ten before speaking, when I feel angry. If necessary repeat counting. I will walk away from the situation until I calm down. I will say a prayer for help.
Observe or think of others who are models for what you want to be. Write down what they do. For example, “Tracy nods a lot and repeats back what others say so they know she is listening.”
I have seen my friend Jamie just laugh off things that would have made me angry. I asked her why she did not. She replied that she chose her battles some things were not worth the anguish your body goes through when angry. She also prays Seemed to make her calm down easier.
” What context or setting is required for you to achieve your goal? For example, “I will talk with my friends in private, distraction-free settings.
I usually control my temper well. Anger can happen anywhere, but I would have to say at home with my teenage daughter or my Husband. A lot of the time I just react with them more than I would other people or family. They are who I need to try and change for. I also want to sit with them and explain how they need to stop also. I get angry when I am always taking care of them and seems like they can only complain or ask for more.
Identify potential barriers to the change.
Potential barriers would be me not following through with the steps to control my anger. Husband or daughter not...