31 July 2012
Disciplining Children: Spanking?
You hear more and more every day about a mother or a father accidentally killing their child for a small misbehavior. This is becoming more and more of a problem. Parenting children is a very difficult task, one of the most challenging things anyone will ever encounter. The reason I want to talk to you today about the proper ways of disciplining children is because a lot of people do not realize the harm in spanking young children or even yelling at them. I will first discuss what we, as parents, can do to deal with a misbehaved child, and then why resulting in spanking a child is more harmful mentally to a toddler than taking the time to discipline in a more effective way.
Quick question, how can you get your child to put on his coat when he refuses to do so in the middle of winter? A. Yell at them “Put your coat on NOW!!” B. Time out for not listening? C. Do not let him/her go outside? D. Let him go outside anyways?
Learning natural lessons is ten times more effective than any other kind of method of disciplining.
A. According to Phillip Hall and his associate's 2007 book “Parenting a Defiant Child: A Sanity-saving Guide to Finally Stopping the Bad Behavior” he states “The best way for your child to learn how to make good decisions is to allow him/her to experience the natural consequences of making poor decisions.” This is true for everyone, even in our age we mess up. At work we learn from it and we make sure it does not happen again. But as parents we also need to make sure that the consequence of the child's decision is controlled. Therefore no one gets hurt. What I mean is by going to the grocery store so they are not outside for a long period of time but park far enough away so they understand that “its cold wish I wore a coat.” Learning natural lessons is ten times more effective than any other kind of method of disciplining.
B.Also just by having a routine in place every day is a great effective way you can get your defiant child to do as you ask because they already know what comes after lunch time its then nap time. After supper follows bath, brush teeth and then story time. And if they decide to take longer than usual then they miss out on their story time as the
Although we understand that a lesson learned are sometimes through great difficulty, some parents result to the spanking method or hitting on the back of the head as a good source of discipline.
All spanking does is cause humiliation in a child.
A.If you were spanked as a child you could remember your parents embarrassing you a few times in public and you so desperately hoped they would stop so your friends wouldn't make fun of you. Most excuses for parents that do spank their children come from a scripture from the Bible. Proverbs 13:24 of the King James Version states “spare the rod and spoil the child.” translated it means He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him.
a.According to “The Center for Effective Discipline” website www.stophiting.com states that in April and May 2004 the United Methodist Church, which is the second largest Protestant denomination in the United States, passed two resolution against corporal punishment in homes, schools, and child-care.
B. Although many parents believe it is “ok” to spank their children because they turned out just fine and they were spanked as a child, does not mean that it does not cause any damage mentally to the brain. According to Castelloe's article The Me in We “How Spanking Harms the Brain” published Feburary 2, 2012, “Spanking may reduce the brain's grey matter, the connective tissue between brain cells. Grey matter is an integral part of the central nervous system and influences intelligence testing and learning abilities. It includes areas of the brain...