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Excusable cheating and its reasons
Juliana Salloum
Lebanease International University

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Abstract
This essay will talk about excusable cheating, cheating definition depends from one person to another for some, it's : Fantasizing about someone, others define cheating as engaging in sexual activity. This definition can be as stringent as to include kissing or as loose as to be okay with everything up to sex . Some people are okay with physical contact, but draw the line at emotional connection. But people never think that the victim can sometimes be guilty and be the reason of having a partner cheating, which is why sometimes cheating can be excusable. The first part of the research will focus on the firs reasons that leads to cheating which is abuse and its effect on the abused partner such as distorting that person’s view of reality, keeping him from having a fruitful life, and not to mention the lack of safety that this person is exposed to which will lead him to escaping his marriage and filling this lack with another partner. The paper will then describe the second reason ; forced marriages. And how forcing a person to let go of the past plans and how it affects her marriage and how living with someone they have absolutely no feelings to will never succeed. The next part will highlight the 3rd reason which is the couple forcing themselves into marriage to avoid bad effects on children such as self -esteem issues, fears that both parents will abandon them, feeling extremely lonely, anger, guilt, and anxiety... Finally we can conclude that it's never the cheaters fault it is a mutual misunderstanding.

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Outline
I- Introduction:

A- Definition: cheating definition depends from one person to another, for example for some, it's : Fantasizing about someone else or flirting with a potential mate is off-limits . This is a bit harsh, considering 81 percent of women and 86 percent of men admit routinely flirting with the opposite sex. Others define cheating as engaging in sexual activity. This definition can be as stringent as to include kissing or as loose as to be okay with everything up to sex . Some people are okay with physical contact, but draw the line at emotional connection.

B- Claim: But people never think that the victim can sometimes be guilty and be the reason of having a partner cheating, which is why sometimes cheating can be excusable. Violence can be one of the 3 major reasons for cheating, not to mention that sometimes women and men are exposed to forced relationships and marriage, and even though divorce seem to be more acceptable than cheating on the partner some people avoid this solution if there were children involved.

II- Body

A- Supporting Paragraph 1: Abuse (definition + types)

1- Supporting Evidence1: distort a person’s view of reality
2- Supporting Evidence2: keep that person from having a fruitful life
3- Supporting Evidence3: the lack of safety

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B- Supporting Paragraph 2: Forced marriage (definition)

1- Supporting Evidence1: letting go of past plans (with another person)
2- Supporting Evidence2: living with someone without having feelings towards them.

C- Supporting Paragraph 3: forcing ourselves into marriages to avoid bad effects on children

1- Supporting Evidence1: Self -esteem issues
2- Supporting Evidence2: Fears that both parents will abandon them 3- Supporting Evidence3: Feeling extremely lonely
4- Supporting Evidence4: Anger, guilt, and anxiety

III- Conclusion

A- Restatement of Claim: Even though some...
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