Infidelity In Relationships

There are a multitude of reasons to why a relationship may fall apart. Among these reasons are issues such as poor communication, long distance and immaturity. While all of these issues can have a great impact on the success of a relationship, one that has been commonly identified as a deal breaker regarding intimate relationships is infidelity. While the issue of infidelity has been prevalent for some time, there has not been any prescribed method of dealing with it. Throughout this paper I will be using information gathered from scholarly sources, which include “What happens after shattered: Finding Hope and Healing after Infidelity”, “Face Threat, Face Support, and Advice Effectiveness Following Infidelity” and “Effects of Infidelity” to
Eickholt entitled “Face Threat, Face Support, and Advice Effectiveness Following Infidelity.” The source begins by discussing the negative impact infidelity can play on the self- esteem of the individual being cheated on. As the article progresses Eickholt discusses the face of the individual who is being cheated on. She goes further in to detail when she talks about the social isolation and embarrassment that can occur as a result of infidelity. She explains the reason behind this feeling by explaining that due to the common belief that infidelity is negative that the individual may think their social circle will think of less of them (Eickholt, 2013). This piece of information correlates with a few of the pieces of advice that Wong discussed. One of these pieces of advice is the first piece, which urges the individual to remember that this was not his or her decision (Wong, 2014). If the individual can keep in mind that this was not his or decision it lowers the likelihood that they feel embarrassed of an action that they did not commit. The second piece of advice that correlates with this article is the ninth piece of advice, which urges the individual to remember that their partner’s act of infidelity is not a reflection of the individual, but instead it is a reflection of the individual’s partner. This piece of advice can be incredibly
Near the end of the essay Rohan offers tips for the individuals who are facing the negative impact that may come along with infidelity. In a similar fashion to Dr. Sims, Rohan stresses the importance of forgiveness when dealing with infidelity. Her reason behind encouraging forgiveness is that by the individual forgiving their partner that the individual will feel less guilt. This forgiveness will in turn help release some of the negative feelings the individual may be harboring (Rohan). This suggestion correlates well with two pieces of Wong’s advice. One piece of advice being the fifth, which suggests the individual not co carry the guilt (Wong, 2014). This is evident due to Rohan’s tip, which she says is meant to help the individual feel less guilt (Rohan). The other piece of advice being the sixth, which encourages the individual to forgive their partner (Wong, 2014). This is evident because Rohan’s encourages the individual to use forgiveness in order to release some of the negative feelings. Another point that Rohan focuses on is to remember that the infidelity was not the individual’s fault, and that nothing could be done on their end to prevent it (Rohan). This tip is similar to what Wong suggest in her first