Final- Paper 3 English 093 7:00 Class
Getting to the Origin of Bullying
In Lives of the Eminent Philosopher, Diogenes Laërtius says, “Why not whip the teacher when the student misbehaves?” There has been recent speculation in the subject of whether to prosecute bullies when their actions result in teenage suicides. With an unbelievable rate of one suicide per 13.7 minutes, the community’s response is to find someone to blame. (O’Connell) This brings up the issue: is it fair to take legal action on these bullies? After all, are not the bullies the back brace of these tragedies? Deeming bullies as criminals for their peers taking their lives seems to be too harsh of a consequence! Though bullies should face consequences for their action, is making bullying a crime the correct answer? Making it a crime by law is only disregarding the origin of the issue, just another meaningless approach on these tragedies. Attempting to identify the emotional state of the bullies would be a more logical solution. Many variables come into play, such as lack of parenting. With better parenting, bullies learn to control their emotions and victims learn to defend themselves. Prosecuting bullies would not be the natural resolution to a severe problem, which is the cause of the bullies’ aggression. In order to deal with the issue of bullying, distinguish the basis of the bully’s desire to be offensive to other students, address why they feel the need to downgrade vulnerable students, and school bullies how to manage their aggressions. Teach the victims how to deal with confrontations.
Bullying can be anywhere including pop culture, workspace, between family members, and most importantly schools. Bullying occurs when there is an imbalance of power between two people and a repeated aggressive action taken on the less powerful person. A bully may be physically stronger, have excellent social status, or be financially endowed; any of those factors could cause an imbalance of power. (Bullying Defined) Bullies’ behaviors can manifest in many ways such as: Verbal bullying executed through name calling and teasing, Physical bullying involving harming a person’s body or possessions, and/or Social bullying which sometimes involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships (also referred to as relational bullying) (stopbullying.gov). One thing is certain; everyone has probably been in one or more of these situations during their adolescence. Now, more mature and educated, we begin to empower students and demonstrate how to overcome these obstacles. Educating teens on how to deal with bullying in schools would be a start of the resolution. Begin by training teachers and staff how to identify vagaries in temperament and behavior of students to prevent violence and alienation. In many instances, the inexperienced teachers ignores student’s silent calls for help or visits the issue once and posts a report into the student's file. With proper training, teachers would be able to utilize the various methods learned to defuse situations, mediate between the bully and the victims, and incorporate third party bystanders. Teachers would in turn educate teens on proactive ways to deal with bullying. As a 2004 study showed, “Schools that focus on punishing bullies and counseling victims report more violence than schools that engage bystanders--and their parents--in understanding that saying something about what you see is not always tattling” (John Cloud). We must create a communal atmosphere by making others feel responsible, beginning with students and parents. It is easy to accuse bullies for the victim’s suicides and anguish they go through in schools, but where do the parents fall into the picture? The back-story of the bullies and victims is what remains unheard. The media only directs viewers on how increasing of an “epidemic” it is. Contrary to the media, while disturbing,...