Does Familiarity Breed Contempt? | |
| | | | |We have all heard the idiom ‘familiarity breeds contempt’, but what exactly causes our regard and respect for another person to | |suddenly turn into dislike? How is it that we can despise the very same person that we proclaimed our love for just a short time | |before? | |In fact, becoming ‘familiar’ with someone should be natural and normal in order to bond and create intimacy. Yet, the contempt does| |not arise from the familiarity itself but when boundaries are overstepped or not drawn clearly. | |In the Greek language, the word for familiarity ‘ekeoteta’, means ‘I feel at home’ and is used with a positive meaning. However we | |can too often slip into a negative aspect of familiarity, when someone talks and behaves in such a way they would as if they were at| |home; casual, open and sometimes too frank. For example, when the shortcomings of others are mentioned in public, or the tone is | |too casual, or private or confidential issues shared inappropriately. | |Often in the early throes of a love relationship or friendship, we feel safe and even enjoy opening up to another, and each feels | |the foundation of their relationship gives them the right of expression. But by your allowing them to become all too familiar with | |you, they feel they have this right to say things others cannot. This is where you have let the other person in too close where | |they are privy to your secrets. And when the relationship loses its...
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