The success of children can be the reflection of how they are raised. There are mothers that believe in the very strict authoritarian rule to obtain success and there are mothers that are overly nurturing to achieve success. Both styles may produce wonderful successful children; however are the children happy within their family structure? I will discuss how two different cultures, Chinese child rearing and Jewish child rearing produce successful offspring.
Chinese families traditionally raise their children based on Confucius’ teachings which emphasize the virtues of filial piety, parental control, obedience, strict discipline, respect for elders, and reverence for tradition. They also emphasize the obligations to family and the importance of education. This style of parenting is known as authoritarian which is shaping and controlling the child, placing high volume on obedience, respect for authority and discourage parent child communication.
Chinese mothers believe their children can be the best students and that academic achievement reflects successful parenting. Chinese parents understand that nothing is fun until you are good at it. To be good requires work. Kids do not like to work. Parents will override their preferences. If a Chinese child is ever disrespectful, they are openly reprimanded and made to feel shameful. Chinese parents demand perfect grades. To have substandard grades means the child did not work hard enough and to shame them or punish them to remember to do better. They believe their children can handle it. Chinese parents believe their children owe them everything because they have sacrificed so much for them. Chinese parents what is best for their children and never allow their children to question them. Chinese parents will push their children if practicing a musical instrument to master the tune until it is perfected. A parent may deny food, restroom breaks; threaten the child with harsh punishment and ridicule. They may even deny physical affection until they have accomplished the desired outcome. When attending school the children socialize with those of the same parental background and teachings. They are more likely to be involved with other peers that recognize academic achievement as oppose to being around children with low grades and poor behavior. “Their academic education is free for ages 6-15; however parents may have to pay for uniforms and books. Their day starts very early in the morning (7 am) to late afternoon (4 pm). School is usually five to six days a week. Some children also attend buxiban or cram schools which offer additional studies in math, science, Chinese and English.” (School in China, 2014)
Jewish law not only demands procreation, but obligates parents to nurture their children. Fathers have a duty to teach their sons a profession. Children attend schools that have extra-long hours than traditional public schools. Their curriculums consist of but not limited to religious doctrines and the basic traditional learnings. School hours are very long and homework is very extensive. Parents are instructed to pass on to their children what the Jews witnessed at Mount Sinai when they received the Torah (Ten Commandments) from the prophet Moses that led them out of land of Egypt. The Jewish people were told to sanctify themselves by washing and preparing their minds and hearts to receive the laws. The laws were commands and guidelines to direct the community to meet the needs of each individual. To obey the laws was a means to God’s protection in a loving and responsible manner. Some of the instructions were to teach God’s commandments to their children. God emphasized the importance of parents teaching the laws to their children. “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: and thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be...
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