An Analytical Approach on Why Not to Act Like the Nice Guy
University of South Florida
The author is an Undergraduate student at the University of South Florida-Tampa
An Analytical Approach on Why Not to Act like the Nice Guy
Various research studies have been conducted on the multiple facets that lead readers to the conclusion that “nice guys finish first”. These studies focused on the effects of altruism, conscientiousness, agreeableness, and cooperation. However, some of the latest research within the realm of social psychology suggests a contradictory conclusion. Taking an innovative approach, these researchers examined what happens when participants engage in a not so cooperative and agreeable manner. This paper examines research from both sides of the spectrum, and if there really is a benefit for the display of a dominant and selfish behavior within the right context in our current world. For clarity sake, the terms dominant and agreeable can be thought of as the personality traits that describe the “bad boy” and the “good guy”.
Dominance vs. Agreeableness within Interpersonal Relations
Throughout these days in society it seems as if popular culture has started to inherit the desire for the “Bad Boy” image in not only the dating scene, but the meeting room as well. Let us first investigate how dominance and agreeableness come into play within the dating realm. When it comes to dating, there are two possible routes to pursue. The first route can be thought of as the “short term” approach, focusing on the here and now. This type of dating involves having multiple partners with no intent of becoming emotionally attached and seeking out sexual satisfaction. A vast majority of those who withhold this type of dating ideology are physically attractive and sexy (Gangestad & Thornhill, 1997; Thornhill & Gangestad, 1994). Along with the looks, internal traits often include dominance within a social context (Jobling, 2002; Kruger et al.,
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