Trust and relationship issues|
4Q-DRC401X-AB213-07-Principles of Conflict Resolution-Fall 2010| |
Trust is a basic building block for all types of relationships. There should be one constant from the relationship of a newborn baby with its mother, to the relationship of allied countries, and any other relationship in between. That one constant should be trust. Without trust it is extremely difficult for any relationship to be maintained. A relationship without trust is a relationship that is on a fast track to a certain conflict. What is trust? From the Building Trust website, trust is defined as being “"the willingness of a party (trustor) to be vulnerable to the actions of another party (trustee) based on the expectation that the trustee will perform an action important to the trustor, regardless of the trustor's ability to monitor or control the trustee.”- (“Building Trust”) Trust is the reason why a baby stops crying when it is in its mothers embrace, because he knows she will tend to its needs. Trust is the reason a husband does not question his wife’s whereabouts, because he believes her faithfulness. Trust is the reason a boss does not check behind the work of his employees, because he knows that they will do it to his standards. I believe that trust is faith. When I say that I am placing my faith in somebody, I trust them. Whenever I die, it is one thing that I want to be remembered for. That as a man, I maintained peoples trust in me. My word was my bond. When there is trust in any type of relationship, parties involved are able to let their guard down. Trust enables people to not worry about being harmed or ostracized for weakness. When a person truly trusts someone, it enables them to open up and be vulnerable. A good explanation of the importance of trust to an organization was given by the website Articlesbase, “This level of organizational trust empowers your readers to focus on what they do best without having to worry about babysitting the people who work for them. This level of trust also builds an emotionally healthy atmosphere which makes it easier for your employees to deal graciously and comfortably with your customers. As you can imagine, this level of high trust can have a dramatic impact on both customer and employee loyalty and therefore increase the potential of your organization.”- (McLaughlin, 2010) A relationship without trust has got some serious issues that will affect it adversely. Mistrust breeds contempt, suspicion, and jealousy. When a person cannot trust someone, it makes it hard to believe any word that they say. People will check behind the un-trusted person to see if they are being true. Wives will check their husband’s phone records, look into wallets for clues, and even hire private investigators to find infidelity. There is a popular TV show “Cheaters”, where the whole premise is to catch unfaithful spouses. Personally, if I cannot trust someone, then I try to not associate with that person at all. Many other people hold my same view. “An organization without trust will be full of backstabbing, fear and paranoid suspicion. If you work for a boss who doesn’t trust her people to do things right, you’ll have a miserable time of it. She’ll be checking up on you all the time, correcting “mistakes” and “oversights” and constantly reminding you to do this or that. Colleagues who don’t trust one another will need to spend more time watching their backs than doing any useful work. The office politics would make Machiavelli blush.”- (“The importance of Trust,” 2006) I could not explain the effects that mistrust have in an organization any better. One out of every two marriages ends in divorce. A fifty percent clip that is a staggering number to say the least. You walk down the aisle in holy matrimony; there is a good chance that your vows will not last. It does not matter what these marriages...