Spanked Children Lose Trust
FAM 151, H002
The author clearly emphasizes spanking in child rearing is not an appropriate form of discipline. It takes away the bond and trust between parent and child. The article points out that a child’s self-worth and self-esteem will suffer if he or she is subjected to corporal punishment. A child’s behavior is affected in many ways. If a child is spanked, they are more likely to have unhealthy relationships when they become adults. They are unable to love and trust others. Also, the child feels threatened, becomes rebellious, and even establishes resentment toward their parents. If a child is treated this way, they think this is acceptable behavior and this form of violence solves problems. The child can become the “neighborhood bully”. Communication skills become hindered between a child and parent. A child is less likely to be honest, show emotional closeness, and love if they feel fear and anger toward a parent. A child correlates love with being spanked, which confuses a child. The author believes the parent can successfully discipline the child by using “nonviolent educational discipline” instead of spanking. Most of what the author points out, I agree with. I grew up in a family that believed in spankings that I do not think was harmful to me. Looking back on my childhood, I have had my share of what I call “gentle spankings”. My parents explained to me why I was being spanked. My communication skills, trustworthiness, and the bond I have with my parents never stopped. I still felt like I could go to my parents about anything. Now if a child is excessively spanked to the point of abuse, I certainly do not agree with. Now, who is to say where that point is?