Premarital Sex and Emotional Baggage
[pic]I always warn students about the emotional consequences of premarital sex. Unlike the physical consequences (pregnancy, etc), emotional consequences happen 100% of the time. They are an unavoidable part of sexual intimacy outside of God’s will. One of these consequences is emotional baggage. I’ll explain this: I’ve done some research and had some frank discussions with some of my (male) friends who engaged in premarital sex. Here’s what I’ve learned: their past sexual relationships followed them into their marriage bed. They visually compared their wives to previous sexual partners. Past experiences came to their mind while in bed with their spouses. As you can imagine, there’s a great deal of guilt and grief over this. They were not able to enjoy the full freedom and intimacy that comes with sexual purity. Such cases, of course, are not hopeless—many of these guys have gone on to have happy marriages. It seems time helped them heal from the past. But I’m sure all of them would have saved themselves for their wives if they could do it all over again. Think about your own life. What will you bring to your spouse on your wedding night—purity or emotional baggage? If you have saved your virginity, keep saving it for your spouse—you will not regret it. If you’ve already given it away, I advise you to make some changes and stop collecting baggage. source:: http://kuyakevin.blogspot.com/2008/11/premarital-sex-and-emotional-baggage.html http://www.prolife.org.ph/news/index.php/2008/11/premarital-sex-and-emotional-baggage/
|Title of Research Study |: |Urbanization and Premarital Sex in the Philippines | |Author |: |Frias, Nuela O. | |Implementing Institution |: |Central Luzon State University | |Study Type |: |Indepth Study/Research Paper | |Publication | |CLSU 2000-10 | |Where is it available |: | |
Abstract for CLSU 2000-10
The study analyzed the interrelationship of premarital sex (PMS) incidence, socialization and urbanization in the Philippine setting. It specifically aimed to examine how the level of urbanization affected the socialization experiences of young Filipino adults and how these socialization experiences in turn impact on their engagement to PMS. This study was a secondary analysis of the Young Adult FertilitySurvey (YAFS II) which was undertaken in 1994. A total of 10,879 Filipino males and females aged 15-24 at the time of the survey served as respondents. To operationalize the level of urbanization, the respondents were regrouped into three categories namely: metro cities, urban cities and municipalities and rural barangays accounting for high, moderate and low levels of urbanization, respectively. This variable only applied to the residential characteristics of the respondents during the time of the survey. Results showed that young adults from metro cities were generally more liberal in outlook and actually engaged in early sexual relations more than their counterparts from less urbanized areas. The socialization experiences of the respondents differed according to level of urbanization. The socialization process of the adolescents from highly urbanized area was characterized by high incidence of family disorganization, low level of family religiosity, high level of parental control and high exposure to all forms of media. The peer, more than any other socialization agents, prominently registered the...