Personal Responsibility

Learning the Skill of Self -Responsibility


There came a moment when I had to look at my life and claim it as my own. I put
myself here. I created this world that now seems upturned. I had to finally
claim that ‘personal responsibility' for my life. Taking this step required a
skill that needs to be learned by many individuals. The acceptance of inner
acknowledgment that we are solely responsible for our choices in life, even when
life deals us a flop, will give us an upper hand. Taking control of that bum
deal frees us to seek out and accept help for ourselves.

In taking on this task we must ask ourselves this simple question, how rational
are we in dealing with the part we played in being who we are today? And if not,
who is the responsible party? Why are we so programmed to blame? Alexander
Graham Bell (1827) said, A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he
is born with- a man is what he makes of himself. In entering adulthood we chose
how our self-esteem develops, but instead we seem to always have that, if it was
not for her or if I could only go back and do things different. We must learn to
work out our anger, hostility and depression over those haunting ghosts and
focus on our now. Who we are and where we are going with this life.

In starting this process it is wise to make a list of those parts of our lives
that are inconsistent with the lifestyle that we have for seen for ourselves.
Taking small steps towards removing these inconsistencies will lead us to that
life we desire. Now think of the very best moments in your life, what where you
doing and who made it special. Doing inventory of those times will give one a
definition of their rightful happiness.

Next, and probably the most important aspect of accepting personal
responsibility is realizing that happiness and having control of ones life go
hand in hand. The more responsibility one takes, the more in control we are.
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