Personal Boundaries

Boundaries. In the back of every human beings mind, lies a set of boundaries. These boundaries are instilled in us as a child by our parents and follow us until the day we die. Our personal boundaries describe who we are as a person. One person’s personal boundaries may be different from another’s. It all depends on our upbringing.
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that one creates for themselves of what the appropriate behavior for others to demonstrate around them and how they will respond when someone crosses or “steps over” the boundaries created by the mind. These include, our physical, mental, and emotional limits we establish for ourselves. They are structured on the basis of beliefs, opinions, attitudes, experiences
There’s soft, spongy, rigid, and flexible. A person with soft boundaries conforms to other people's boundaries. The person with this kind of boundary is easily manipulated. A person with spongy boundaries is like a combination of both soft and rigid boundaries. They allow less manipulation of their emotions than soft boundaries but more than rigid. People with spongy boundaries don’t know who or what to let in and who or what to keep out. I guess one could say they are lost in a way. A person with rigid boundaries has built a wall so to speak so nobody can get close to them either physically or emotionally. Physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual abuse can often cause this “wall” to be built. Rigid boundaries are usually based on previous experiences that didn’t go well and are subject to time place or circumstances. The flexible boundary category is similar to selective rigid boundaries, but the person has more control. The person decides what they let in and what they keep out, they’re resistant to emotional contagion, being manipulated and they’re difficult to use for one’s selfish needs. Having flexible boundaries is the ideal when it comes to personal