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Po Bronson is the author of five books, most recently Why Do I Love These People? His prior book, What Should I Do With My Life?, was a #1 New York Times bestseller. His books are available in 20 languages. He has written for the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and NPR’s Morning Edition. He has an MFA from San Francisco State University and a BA from Stanford University. He co-founded the San Francisco Writer's Grotto, a writers' collective, with Ethan Canin and Ethan Watters in 1994. He is on the board of directors of Consortium, a national distributor of over 70 fine independent presses. He lives in San Francisco. Ashley Merryman is a writer and attorney living in Los Angeles. She previously served in the Clinton Administration in various positions, including as a speechwriter / researcher to then Vice-President Al Gore. Her play, Metanoia, has had staged readings in Los Angeles and Chicago, while her editorials appear in the National Catholic Reporter and other publications. She has a JD from Georgetown, a BFA from the University of Southern California, and a Certificate in Irish Studies, from Queen’s University, Belfast, Northern Ireland.
The book’s main argument is that forcing you to reevaluate your thinking about parenting. It reveals new research that not only challenges modern-day parenting practices but also questions old practices as well. It is aiming to make you think about modern parenting styles at least twice. It isn’t following the latest parenting trends; it is analyzing and deconstructing them. It isn’t proposing the “new, correct and only” way to parent; it gives you the research and helps you navigate the mixed messages. The book investigates common misconceptions seen in modern parenting practices, and in children’s education more generally. I’ll try to summarize book’s arguments which are served in ten chapters. In chapter one, they are focusing on the inverse power of praise. The argument of this chapter is that false

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