Where did I come from?
My role at work is office based and as a senior manager I have to deal with people with all types of back grounds. My skills over the years have built up but as time goes on these skills need to develop around the way the business progresses and also what happens during employee’s life.
My reason for this Course are mainly around self development, to get a better understanding of people and their feelings this can be challenging and rewarding. This is also a part of my working day dealing with people is hard but through this course I have developed some skills to tackle and get better results by understanding the person who I’m dealing with, this is also a great tool to motivate and try and give self belief. Part of this self development is to possible change my career but I cannot come to a conclusion on this until I finish this course
I have wanted to get more involved in this type of activity for some time but a little apprehensive because of my age also if I can find time. The group is a good mix of ages and back ground which I would expect from this type of course. I have looked and listened to the group and realise the reason for them taking this course differ. Some of the group are already activity involved in a similar type of work and want to progress this more. The minority of the group have their own issues and wont to understand their past and try and come to terms with it. Like myself most want to change their career
I have started to sit and speak to the same people in our group others have peeled off into their cluster. The few who I have spoken to seem nice and friendly. During the three hours we had the usual formalities but once this was over we did start the session. We are mainly focusing on listening, I thought that counseling was about giving advise and to try and help with problems but from the outset this was not correct. Listening is a fundamental part of the skill and I think we will concentrate a lot on this subject
What is counseling ?
Counselling is a process that enables a person to sort out issues and reach decisions affecting their life. Often counselling is sought out at times of change or crisis, it need not be so, however, as counselling can also help us at any time of our life. Counselling involves talking with a person in a way that helps that person solve a problem or helps to create conditions that will cause the person to understand and/or improve his behavior, character, values or life circumstances. http://www.dougwoods.com/counselling.html
Counseling is not an interview, nor is it about giving advise. Counseling is about a relationship that offers space for the client to explore the problems in a safe and trust worthy setting, the emphasis is on self help but the key is for the client to take responsibility for their own lives. By doing this they make the discoveries for themselves. To help the client and counselor they set boundaries, aims or functions. Unlike counseling other activities depend on Guidance, advice and befriending. People often mistake counselors as people who give out advise and help, this is not the case, a counselor listens and uses these skills to understand what is behind the clients feelings, it is also about being aware of the clients non verbal communication to name a few. Eye contact, eye movement, tone of voice, posture and facial expressions these are all messages that are valuable non verbal massages given by the client the client is feeling.
I have taken this extract from Wellbeing web site I think it explains the differences
Different types Of Counselling
When deciding on a counselor, it can be useful to understand the different therapies they may use. Although all can be effective, you may find one approach more appealing than another, or find that some approaches are...