“The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
To me, she meant having the courage to know yourself well and to live life being exactly who you were meant to be.
Just how well do you know yourself?
It stuns me to meet people who hardly know themselves. But then again, who am I to be stunned when I did not know myself in my 20s?
How I wish I believed that we could be different from the rest of the world and still be fabulous – in fact, fabulous because of it, not despite it. How badly I wish someone had told me that different means good and conformity is not for everyone. That it’s perfectly fine to explore what the heart wants and to tune out the rest of the world long enough to build a relationship with your soul. That the most beautiful thing you will ever witness in your life is when you begin to unfold into the exact person you were meant to be.
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What does it mean to know oneself?
Knowing yourself is beyond figuring out your favorite color, your ideal mate, your favorite pet or everything about your best friend. We are no longer in high school – thank heavens – where being “yourself” meant being just like everyone else, acting stupid and defying our parents and teachers!
Knowing yourself is a deeper, greater and slower process. It is a road that is long and winding and you must be ready to travel it. It brings you face-to-face with your self-doubts and you need your inner confidence to push through it. But it is a journey that pays in abundance, the magnificence of this rose blossoming before you.
Knowing yourself means respecting your values in life, your beliefs, your personality, your priorities, your moods, your habits, your magnificent body, and your relationships. For me, knowing myself means devoting time to my yoga because the body movements and br eathing take me to where I truly belong.
Knowing yourself means understanding your strengths and weaknesses, your passions and fears. It means being aware of your eccentricities and idiosyncrasies, your likes and dislikes, your tolerances and limits, your insecurities and your fears.
Knowing yourself means knowing your purpose in life.
You are not born knowing yourself. You do not get to know yourself simply by growing up and growing old. Knowing yourself is a conscious effort; you do it with intention and purpose.
Not knowing yourself becomes obvious sooner or later. A quiet frustration lives in your heart when you do not know yourself. You may choose to live with it and ignore it – or you may choose to start getting to know yourself.
A Get to Know Yourself Mini-Guide:
1. Get to Know Your Personality: Maybe are the type to take personality and assessment tests. Maybe you can just observe and listen and collect bits and pieces of the puzzle that will make the whole come clear for you. I prefer the latter but either way, get to know your personality inside out. Who are you behind your name? What are your characteristic traits? What image do you portray to the outside world? What is true nature as a person on a happy day, on a sad day, in face of a challenge or a great reward? How do you react to the world around you?
2. Get to Know Your Values: When I work with my clients, one of the first things I ask before the coaching sessions is a list of their values. I learned this from a great mentor once. The list of life’s core values all “sound good” but the question is which ones feed the flames of your fire? In your work, in your home, in all aspects of your life, which ones can you not compromise on? Is it honesty, integrity, security or flexibility? Is it dedication to others, wisdom and learning, financial comfort or fun? Do you value loyalty above excellence, responsibility above ambition, or innovation above...