719 How Should a Husband Treat His Wife?
God’s Answers to Life’s Questions
Some people think because the husband is the head of the wife, which means he has a right to be the boss and keep her in line. Well the Scriptures teach that the husband is the head of his wife, but there is more to be said. Stay with us as we explore this important Bible teaching. Today we’re asking the question, “How should a husband treat his wife?” Marriage is one of the great gifts God has given to man. I can think of nothing more precious than a husband and wife who have lived their whole lives in a covenant of love and marriage. All marriages have their problems, but I am convinced that when two people love God and love each other they will be able to live together “till death do they part.” When people pursue their marriages on God’s terms and keep God’s laws, they find that their marriages are happy and fulfilling. Today we are focusing on how husbands should treat their wives in the marriage relationship. The apostle Paul gives us God’s description of marriage in Ephesians 5:22-33: Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. The Scriptures clearly teach that the husband is the head of his wife, and she is to be subject to him. In our day, when equality seems to be so important, some people think this is unfair, that God gave authority to husbands over their wives. But the idea that this authority somehow gives the man the right to abuse or dominate his wife in an unkind way is not the will of God. Any man who treats the woman he married unkindly is acting very foolishly. He is not only disobeying God, he is deceiving himself. Only a fool could think that abusing his wife will be a benefit to him. Wise husbands know that the better they treat their wives, the more their wives will respond with love and respect. When husbands fail to love their wives, their wives react with behavior that shows a lack of respect. When husbands sense a lack of respect from their wives, they often act in ways that are unloving. So these feelings of being disrespected and unloved tear apart the marriage. But when husbands show love and wives show respect, the marriage prospers and develops. You can make your marriage brighter and better, husbands, if you can learn to demonstrate Christian love to your wife. If a disrespected husband will love his wife anyway, and if an woman who feels unloved will respect her husband anyway, they can together start putting that marriage back together. A wise husband pays attention to his wife. He is able to see the things that she and every woman need to find happiness in this life. Every woman needs to feel that her husband is close to her and cares about her. Many husbands keep their distance from their wives, and their wives feel unloved because of it. Wives need husbands who will open up enough to share his thoughts and feelings with her....
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