A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment
Joey T Pounds
It seems that our society is inundated in every turn of our everyday lives with sexual innuendos. Just turn on the television and there find it in the thirty second advertisements on Ketchup, coffee, travel destinations and on and on. Almost every, in not every, television show has outright displays of sexual acts or small hints towards sex. In everyday conversations, someone says a sentence that they never intended to have sexual overtones, yet one person giggles or smile because they here it in sexual ways. Most often society presents sex as a sorted or perverse act. That is why the book The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment by Clifford and Joyce Penner is so important. Through a series of concepts the Penners present the acts of sexual experiences through a Christian perspective. They present sexual acts a natural and God-given. Clifford and Joyce Penner define the sexual experience is the ecstatic expression of our total being—physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. The book shares how one can reach sexual fulfillment when all these dimensions come together with freedom with one we make a committed commitment. The sections of the book present how to develop attitudes that will help a couple develop sexual freedom. The chapters also help couples learn good communication skills that lead to breaking down barriers, building respect, relieve performance anxiety and lead to sexual freedom.
The Gift of Sex
A BIBLICAL PERSPECTIVE
Section One, starting page 19, opens with giving us the title bases of the book, sexuality if a gift from God. Penner and Penner clearly give the understanding that God’s scriptures view the human sexual dimensions as something to be cherished. God values the sexual person he individually made of each man and woman. God has high regard for the marriage relationship in all areas; spiritually, emotionally, intellectually and certainly the sexual side. The scriptures in Genesis clearly state that we are created male and female, and that we are a reflection of God’s image. In the scriptures it also clearly says that when we find the one of the opposite sex to whom we are to be joined in commitment, we leave our parents and become one with this person. The command to become one is first directed to the flesh or the sexual act. Penner brings out the fact that the Hebrews never divided a human’s physical being separate from their spiritual and emotional being. To the Hebrew, and their writing, it was all one. Therefore, a committed husband-wife relationship will be one in all areas. The book brings out the beautiful picture of marriage also as a picture of how God relates to his bride the church.
In chapter four the Penners bring out the fact that the sexual experience between husband and wife are expected. Sex is a process of unity, procreation and pleasure. A whole chapter in the old testament is devoted to the sexual experience between a husband and wife, Solomon and his wife. The book, Song of Solomon, is a erotic poem that brings out a sexual freedom between the couple. God does not condone free sexuality in the confines of His biblical instructions. He created sexual intercourse for the completion of the committed couple. In The Message translation of the bible it says in I Corinthians 7:3, “Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s only for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again.” Although the sexual expression between husband and wife is to be mutual, it is not to be ignored. God commands it.
THE PHYSICAL DIMENSION
God gives restriction to who we may share sex with, but he does not restrict...