From Infanthood To Adult Hood) Series-(Tantrums)

Parenting With Love’s (From Infanthood To Adult Hood) Series- (Tantrums)
As violence increases, as the rhythm of life hastens and as pressure mounts; less room is allowed for emotions and emotional illiteracy increases. Although it is crystal clear that children have very intense emotions that they express very spontaneously and vividly wherever they were, adults tend to forget that children are a bundle of overwhelming and powerful emotions.
It is noticed that infants use their entire body to express feelings of joy or anger; when a three-month old cries, they move their hands, kick their legs and scream loudly… When a two-year old feels happy, they jump up high, laugh and hug or kiss others… When they feel sad they lower their head, refrain
Consequently, mothers have to be aware that when they are faced with a tantrum, they will be dealing with genuine feelings of anger. The child does not fake it; he/she is not overreacting nor is trying to attract attention. All the invalid advice, spread through Facebook, urging people to ignore children with tantrums and not to respond to their crying because they are merely trying to attract attention, utterly provoke me!!
Children have psychological needs for attention and care; if they cry because they need attention, then it is better if we satisfy this need rather than ignore it. Ignoring these needs teaches children to shut down on themselves and to be isolated.
So, what are the practical steps for dealing with recurrent tantrums common in children aged 1 to
7- As a result, the intensity of their crying will gradually subside. Once this happens, immediately look at the child sympathetically and describe the feelings they are showing, be that sadness, anger or annoyance by saying “It is sad to stay at home and not to go out with daddy.” Or "Are you upset because the telly was turned off?” At that point, the child will respond by shaking their head or saying "Yes I want daddy" or "I want the telly." To which you should reply "You wish you had gone with Daddy." Or "I see how sad it is not to be able to watch what we like. Tell me how sad\angry you are."
Being emotionally smart, children can understand the language of emotions much better than the language of logic. So, if the mother is by their side, talking about the child's pain and hurt, their crying will subside, they will learn that the difficult experience they have been through is called anger, or sadness. This realization will calm them down, make them accept that experience and time after time their crying will recede.