In this part of my assignment I will be looking at how both predictable and unpredictable major life events can have an effect on a person’s development.
Predictable – A child starting school
*I spoke to a person who found the transition from Primary to Secondary school very difficult*
Physically- Due to the difficulty she found adjusting to the new school, she began to eat less and less, started making herself sick and began to suffer from panic attacks. These things didn’t help the stress of changing schools because she felt ill and weak and couldn’t function while trying to complete simple tasks.
Intellectually- She took a lot of the first weeks off school meaning she was already falling behind in work, when she did manage to get into school and classes without too much stress or suffering a panic attack, she found it difficult to concentrate on any work which meant she wasn’t working at the same speed as the rest of her classes. This later meant that she had to catch up quickly which then caused her more stress when she was able to attend school full time. Although she faced a lot of problems she spent more time by herself practising her music and is not taking grades in a number of different instruments.
Emotionally- She found she was getting moody and angry quickly because she was tired and stressed and it seemed no one could understand how she felt. This whole situation affected her confidence; she thought she was ‘strange’ because she couldn’t go to school like a ‘normal’ person.
Socially- She found it hard to keep in touch with her friends as they were at school when she had to stay at home. All the friends she had from primary school were meeting new people and forming new relationships, so when she went back to school, she didn’t have many people to talk to. This knocked her confidence further and she became isolated at school, sometimes only having conversations with her family when she got home.
Predictable – Parenthood
*I spoke to a friend who had a baby at the age of 17*
Physical- Her body obviously changed with her pregnancy, and after the baby was born, found it hard to deal with the changes she had after when she didn’t look exactly like she did before.
Intellectual- Although she had finished her college course 3 months before the birth of her child, she said she would have like to go on to do another course so that shoe could obtain more qualifications in order to pursue her career choice. She wanted to become a Nursery school supervisor and said that after her childcare course having a baby had taught her a lot of things she didn’t learn in college. She found that being practical by having to look after a baby and have all the responsibilities had taught her a lot more practical things than college could have and still wants to work with children feeling now that she can help, care for, and understand them better now that she has had a child of her own.
Emotional- She found that all the emotional changes during her pregnancy were difficult to deal with, especially when she went through the ‘nesting stage’ where she felt everything had to be perfect before the baby came. She started to feel like her friends didn’t want to spend time with her because she was pregnant which meant her confidence dropped. She became very emotional when she had the worries of developing Post Natal Depression once her child was born which made her stressed.
Social- All of her friends were turning 18 and going out partying when all she wanted to do was stay at home and have an early night; Meaning that she lost touch with a number of friends. She felt really tired so even found having friends and family come to her flat to visit her hard because she would keep falling asleep. Because of this she stopped inviting people round with the worry that they would think...