In this world, everyone should be having secure sense of belonging to our own group. When we are born, we have already belonged to different groups, and in these groups, our wellbeing depends on our secure sense of belonging to a group. At school, our wellbeing depends on our secure sense of belonging to class. At company, our wellbeing depends on our secure sense of belonging to work team. At home, our wellbeing depends on our secure sense of belonging to family. In all this places, we all have different groups, however, only had secure sense of belonging to a group, therefore we feel sense of happiness and wellbeing. In a correction of stories book ‘growing up Asian in Australia’, some of the stories shown that people’s wellbeing depends on secure sense of belonging to a group.
To draw on a more personal example, as well as some observation, I too found secure is difficult to sense of belong to a new group of people when I first arrived in Australia. When I first came to Australia, everything is terrible for me. Everyday has many challenges for me. When I got into my school, I did not know anyone from there. I had no friends. Also at the start, I was so lonely and did everything by myself because I scared of talk to others. I thought everyone speak excellent English even all the Asians and if I talk to them, they might laughed at me. Therefore, at that time, I suffered from homesick and suffering not a secure sense of belonging, also I was being utterly confused at that time. At least,
Overall, having a secure sense of belonging to a group does not really make us unpeaceful. Instead, we must feel wellbeing and satisfied.