In today's society and culture we are surrounded by people telling us that we can find happiness by having sex at any time we feel like it. This message is displayed in the media through television, internet, music, movies, video games, and more. People will try to convince you and say "Just try it and you'll be happy," or "a life with no sex is boring." Through my studies in the Scriptures I feel led to tell you that the Bible says something quite different than what the world is telling us to do. The culture we live in and what the media tells us to do is no excuse to break the standards that God has set out for us in His Word. I will now go into the lies of premarital sex, what the Bible says about premarital sex, and why we are called to wait until marriage to have sex.
I will now go into the details of the lies culture tells us about sex. The following points I'm about to make come from LeaderU.com. The first lie is that sex creates intimacy. This is a lie because intimacy comes from verbal communication and emotional contact. Intimacy is built upon three values: honesty, love, and respect. In fact premarital sex could get in the way of intimacy. According to Donald Joy, having premarital sex can cut off the emotional connection development. He also mentions a study of 100,000 women that have had sex before marriage presents these three problems: unhappiness in their marriage, discontentment with the amount of intimacy, and profound confidence.
The second lie I want to address, also from LeaderU.com, is that starting sex early in a relationship will help you get to know one another and become better partners later. This is a misunderstanding of what sex really is. According to LeaderU.com, "In healthy marriages, sex takes its natural place beside the intellectual, emotional and practical aspects of life. (Fryling, 1)" Married couples spend the majority of their time in discussion, working out issues, and in emotional contact.
The third lie...
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