Psychology and Long-term Involvement

Do you think men and women look for different characteristics when looking for long-term involvement with a partner? Yes, I think men look for different things than women.
What characteristics and why? I think most men want women to have a life of her own. That means that means that she can take care of herself, pay attention to her personal style. I think it all boils down to attractiveness and their personality. Physical looks can get a lady’s initial interest, but it isn’t what builds attraction. Guys and women often cannot explain why they are attracted to someone. Attraction isn’t a logical decision. I believe that confidence is a sum of various things, appearance, intelligence, culture and succeeding in social life. I also thing being yourself is great too.
Do you think these are same characteristics if the seeker is looking for a same-sex partner? I would assume that it’s about the same.
Can you think of examples from your life or from books or movies where the selection was disastrous? I can’t remember the name of the movie, but I remember the plot. It was about how this girl had a life and she thought it was boring, so she started cheating on her husband with this rich guy. In the end she knew it was a mistake, but it was too late.
How about when the selection worked well? When I was in high school there was this girl that everyone in school thought she was unapproachable, so I just took a chance and talked to her. I found out she just wanted to find the right guy with the blend of smarts and personality. We were together for 4 years. There are other times that my friends had situations like that, and it happens in the movies all the