Positive Communication and Its Effect on Interpersonal Relationships

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This paper provides information about what positive communication is and the effect it has on interpersonal relationships.

Positive Communication and Its Effect on Interpersonal Relationships The more effectively people communicate with their significant other, the more satisfying and successful their relationship will be. Most people will agree that in order to have a successful relationship it requires positive and effective communication. What is positive communication?

Bill Mansell, President of MindPerk Inc. states that “positive relationships can mean the difference between success or failure in our business, family and personal life. And, communication is the key to these relationships.” Mansell shares ten steps that can help with a positive communication: 1) Communicate often. To communicate often simply means that many people wait to discuss things of importance because they either want to wait for a better time or because they are trying to avoid the issues. Putting off these important discussions can be detrimental to a relationship. Even though there may be times when it is better to put certain discussions off until, for instance, the moment is not so heated, it is essential to talk to one another as often as possible. According to Reuben E. Gross, PhD, “for committed or married couples, constant discussion and mutual exploration of needs and frustrations is recommended.” Communication needs to be done often; agreements must be renewed and renegotiated on a regular basis in order for relationships to be truly effective. Assuming that an agreement you made 10 years ago still stands true is purely wishful thinking. Communicating often allows room for renegotiation. 2) Listen. Mansell says listening does not only mean that you are paying attention to what your partner is saying, but understanding his/her point of view is essential. Since we all grew up in different surroundings we all have different families, cultures, backgrounds and traditions. 3) Translate. In translation we need to sometimes stop and explain what we mean when we say certain things. We do not want our significant other to misinterpret things we may say simply because of the fact that we come from different cultures. 4) Focus on common goals. Mansell also says we need to focus on common goals because “common goals and objectives cement relationships.” Working for a common goal will help bring the couple together with a common purpose. 5) Praise and compliment. In poor communication we can often point out the weaknesses and bad habits of our significant other. This is ineffective communication. We need to praise and compliment and often emphasize what our partner does well. We all have faults and shortcomings. While we should always strive to do better and change what we do that may be hurtful to our partner, we also need to be complimented and reminded about the things we do correctly. Mansell says, “negative or corrective messages, although sometimes necessary, are much easier to accept (and learn from) when peppered with healthy doses of honest praise and sincere appreciation.” 6) Stick to the issue. Sometimes in our relationships we tend to bring up things our significant other has done in the past; this may make the argument more heated. If we stick to the issue at hand it strengthens the point we are attempting to make. Sometimes this requires us to take time to cool off and come back to discuss the issue when things are not so heated. 7) Be respectful and kind. It is also essential to be respectful and kind. In this effort we respect one another’s view and opinions. Mansell says, “using tact and good judgment, you can be both honest and kind in your communication. Respect also means you never say anything about someone else when they are not there, that you would not be comfortable saying in their presence.” 8) Forgive one another. Another aspect of positive communication, according to Mansell, is forgiving one another....
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