“ Tis Better to have loved and lost Then never to have loved at all. “
Love is complicated, complex notion. It is not necessarily roses and chocolates, or “rainbows and butterflies” as the Maroon Five song says. It is the subject of art, music, films and literature. Love is all-encompassing, consuming and rich. So much so that when loss is involved it can be so traumatic that it is difficult, if not impossible to recover. Many believe that to lose a loved one is the greatest pain possible – that it will destroy you. I have heard people say that it’s so much easier never to love. According to Adele, Orsino, Tennyson and the Beatles, and in my own opinion, that is not true, we believe: “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
No one can deny that the loss of a loved one is excruciating. In the words Meryl Streep in The Rabbit Hole “I don't know... the weight of it, I guess. At some point, it becomes bearable. It turns into something that you can crawl out from under and…carry around like a brick in your pocket. And you... you even forget it, for a while. But then you reach in for whatever reason and - there it is.” She shows that losing a child, a unique kind of love relationship, is permanently scarring and this is proof that in some scenarios it is impossible to judge whether it is better to have “loved and lost”.
But the loss of a child is an exception and while the loss of any loved one is undoubtedly tragic, Tennyson’s words prove that from his experiences with friend Hallam, the journey of love outweighs its destination. He shows that their relationship was a process and even though the process came to an end, it’s finality didn’t detract from its value. Love has the power to make someone and or even break someone; it has the power to enhance and develop someone’s life. The extract from Tennyson’s poem “ in Memoriam “ gives us the intense feeling of his love for his friend Hallam. Tennyson...