Online Dating Summary
1. Introduction
In Meeting Your Match: Navigating the Minefield of Online Dating, the author, Daisy Buchanan discusses online dating in a practical, modern way. She covers every step of the journey from deciding which sites to join, to constructing a profile, all the way to the dates themselves. Using a mix of quizzes, advice, checklists, personal anecdotes, and examples of happy and not-so-happy endings, Buchanan lays out her beliefs about how to go about online dating. As someone who found success in online dating, she dedicates her book to the man she is now in a relationship with.
2. Overview
Starting the book off, Buchanan discusses the types of platforms available for online dating. Each one is different, and have different traits and …show more content…
The most important rule while multiple dating is to make sure to use condoms, as multiplying partners is equal to multiplying the risk (Buchanan 141). Another section includes how to date with no strings online, which boils down to always being clear and straightforward with partners and potential partners. At the beginning, there should be no confusion about what kind of relationship is happening, and the relationship should end as soon as it becomes something other than casual unless both parties agree to become more (Buchanan …show more content…
Buchanan notes on the page entitled “Queerly Beloved” sites that are available for lesbian and bisexual women seeking a same-gender partner (16). There is no mention of any resources for any other options for men or other genders seeking a same-gender partner. This leads me to believe that the author is attempting to not make assumptions about the sexuality of her readers, but that she is assuming that her readers are women. Further proof about not assuming a sexuality is in her section on choosing an appropriate photo. Here she uses a neutral term “partner” and reminds readers that photos with people of any gender are acceptable if they are appropriate (Buchanan 40). The attempt at a non-assumption of sexuality does not equal a non-assumption of the gender of her reader. On the other hand, much of the advice given in the book encourages the readers to act outside of the prescribed roles they have in with regards to dating. In Buchanan’s section on messaging a potential date, she states that the reader should “ditch any old-fashioned notions you have about gender - who should pursue and who should be pursued. You’re not paying a monthly subscription to stand around bored at a weirdly retro cotillion” (72). She acknowledges that these ideas about who should do what are still prevalent in our society and urges readers to
In Meeting Your Match: Navigating the Minefield of Online Dating, the author, Daisy Buchanan discusses online dating in a practical, modern way. She covers every step of the journey from deciding which sites to join, to constructing a profile, all the way to the dates themselves. Using a mix of quizzes, advice, checklists, personal anecdotes, and examples of happy and not-so-happy endings, Buchanan lays out her beliefs about how to go about online dating. As someone who found success in online dating, she dedicates her book to the man she is now in a relationship with.
2. Overview
Starting the book off, Buchanan discusses the types of platforms available for online dating. Each one is different, and have different traits and …show more content…
The most important rule while multiple dating is to make sure to use condoms, as multiplying partners is equal to multiplying the risk (Buchanan 141). Another section includes how to date with no strings online, which boils down to always being clear and straightforward with partners and potential partners. At the beginning, there should be no confusion about what kind of relationship is happening, and the relationship should end as soon as it becomes something other than casual unless both parties agree to become more (Buchanan …show more content…
Buchanan notes on the page entitled “Queerly Beloved” sites that are available for lesbian and bisexual women seeking a same-gender partner (16). There is no mention of any resources for any other options for men or other genders seeking a same-gender partner. This leads me to believe that the author is attempting to not make assumptions about the sexuality of her readers, but that she is assuming that her readers are women. Further proof about not assuming a sexuality is in her section on choosing an appropriate photo. Here she uses a neutral term “partner” and reminds readers that photos with people of any gender are acceptable if they are appropriate (Buchanan 40). The attempt at a non-assumption of sexuality does not equal a non-assumption of the gender of her reader. On the other hand, much of the advice given in the book encourages the readers to act outside of the prescribed roles they have in with regards to dating. In Buchanan’s section on messaging a potential date, she states that the reader should “ditch any old-fashioned notions you have about gender - who should pursue and who should be pursued. You’re not paying a monthly subscription to stand around bored at a weirdly retro cotillion” (72). She acknowledges that these ideas about who should do what are still prevalent in our society and urges readers to