Martyr Self-Martyrdom

Being a martyr self sacrifices to ensure everyone else within the circle comes first, the martyr acts out of a sense of duty and responsibility to act for the benefit of others excluding themselves. I know quite a few people like this and often I looked to it as a strength but after this lesson I now beg to differ, as my eyes were opened they are indeed unhappy within and quite unstable in their decision making. They measure their success in others happiness often because of what they have done for that person. This on down the line will create unhealthy problems and unhealthy people.
Self-martyrdom causes guilt, resentment and dysfunctional relationships. Often they believe that they are owed for sacrificing time etc into a relationship, or
The martyr will often be walking in denial and therefore when they fail to receive thanks from the partner they feel unhappy and fail to see that they initiated such response via their suffocating and suppressing actions upon another person.
Negatively selfish is a person who puts themselves in all things including the deliberate determent of others and being inconsiderate of others. They are selfish at the cost of others including forcing a person into submission and co-operation without allowing them to make their own choices. Often the strong partner dominates the weaker partner and forces them into self-sacrifice, which in turn is known as emotional abuse.
If I pressure someone to do something they do not want to do by making them feel guilty or by being unpleasant in some other way, I got what I wanted at their expense.
Ultimately this behavior is bad for both the selfish person and the people victimized and exploited by the selfish person.
Positively Selfish is a person who puts themselves first without any deliberate or ill effects on