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The relationship chosen for this assignment in one that involves my wife and I. Both of us have been married for over five years and we have been together for a total of seven years. I met my wife through my best friend as she was his front door neighbor and we have also seen each other but never spoke until one day I just stopped her in front of her house and asked her for her name and the rest well is history. Our relationship began as a friendship as we would go out to nightclubs, watch movies, and just hang out in the front porch talking until literally the sun came up the following day it was something not to many get to do and I was lucky I would say. After my sophomore year of college, we were dating for over 6 months we found out that she was pregnant. I decided I had a good woman by my side and although we were young we were able to get married. The level of our relationship turned into a romantic one as we began as strangers, then friends, after boyfriend/ girlfriend and lastly wife and husband. I have no regrets with any decisions I made in regards to why and with who I chose to be married to.
Although there are factors that led to the attraction of my wife I will talk about one short term attraction. As it is defined in Chapter 9, it states that short term attraction is a degree to which you sense a potential for developing an interpersonal relationship ( Beebe and Beebe , Redmond Chapter 9 page 256). I have known my best friend since we were in diapers and after high school is when we noticed that she was living there. She literally did not pay any attention to us in the beginning, to the point that we did not even know her name. I remember us in a group would scream out girl names to try and get her attention and obviously that did not work. We all thought she did not know how to have a good time but then after I met her I was completely wrong. After meeting her I was blown away and there was interest to get to know her better. I was blown away because we spoke until 5 AM that first day just getting to know each other and this is where the short term attraction took place. After getting to know her I decided to try and seek a relationship with her and it just grew naturally. The long term attraction was starting to set in. Getting to know her more we shared same views on family, possibility of leaving the Miami area for a better future for our children we just clicked. We were able to have open conversations while not holding anything back this showed me that she wanted to invest in a long term relationship with me. With everything that I was able to learn about her and she learned from me, I was able to commit to allow the progress and handle it carefully because I placed value in this relationship. Romances are made from feelings, emotions, and conducts. Strength in a romance may have several forms. I think it may be reliant on the level that the romance is in. Coercive strength is when a person utilizes either emotional or even actual strength to push their position on another. This is a method of the person having their way at the cost of the other side in the romance. When I was eighteen my dad insisted I go away for college, in spite of my objections and threatened not to pay my fees if I didn't do as he insisted. Reward authority is yet another instance of authority in a bond where people try to affect another side in the bond providing emotional or actual advantages for compliance. A good example of this would be a mother or father informing a kid that there particular jobs or chores were performed to the parent’s desires and the prize for the kid would be candies or a cycle. Our partnership has a powerful basis of respect and love for each other as powerful and effective persons. Other kinds of strength in partnerships are knowledge (capability or abilities, persuasion, dollars, pressure or coercion. Strength...