Interpersonal Needs, Firo
Fundamental Interpersonal Relationship Orientation
Interpersonal, FIRO, are the relations between people. Each party takes account of the other; behavior is affected by the other or determined by expectations of another. Interpersonal Behavior, otherwise known as FIRO-B, refers to a person’s feelings and actions. People join groups to satisfy interpersonal needs. Interpersonal needs are based on self-image. Being a distinct person - having a particular identity, happens and shows early in the group formation process. Our needs to be included help drive how we communicate, three basic human needs are Inclusion, control and affection.
Inclusion
The need to matter so people will care about you. Refers to feeling of importance to the extent to which we include ourselves with others. Inclusion reveals itself in people that want to be attended to, wanting to attract attention and/or wanting interaction with others. People with low inclusion needs tend to be introverted and withdrawn. An example would be; “No one is interested in me, because I am worthless, I’m not going to risk being ignored, so I will stay away.” Control
Refers to feelings of competence, being seen as able to cope with the world, to the extent of which we control other’s actions or desire for them to guide us. If inclusion is about belonging, then control is about winning. A person seeking inclusion wants to be part of the argument, win or lose. One seeing control wants to win, even if he’s not accepted by the group. Control also deals in areas of power, influence and authority. Someone in the extremes of control needs, desire the control over others - and over one’s future, or the desire to be controlled – to have responsibility lifted The person who will not take responsibility for anything, an example, “Whatever you say boss.”
Affection
Refers to the feeling of being lovable, definition in your text is simplistic. An amount to which we express affection to others and desire that from
Interpersonal, FIRO, are the relations between people. Each party takes account of the other; behavior is affected by the other or determined by expectations of another. Interpersonal Behavior, otherwise known as FIRO-B, refers to a person’s feelings and actions. People join groups to satisfy interpersonal needs. Interpersonal needs are based on self-image. Being a distinct person - having a particular identity, happens and shows early in the group formation process. Our needs to be included help drive how we communicate, three basic human needs are Inclusion, control and affection.
Inclusion
The need to matter so people will care about you. Refers to feeling of importance to the extent to which we include ourselves with others. Inclusion reveals itself in people that want to be attended to, wanting to attract attention and/or wanting interaction with others. People with low inclusion needs tend to be introverted and withdrawn. An example would be; “No one is interested in me, because I am worthless, I’m not going to risk being ignored, so I will stay away.” Control
Refers to feelings of competence, being seen as able to cope with the world, to the extent of which we control other’s actions or desire for them to guide us. If inclusion is about belonging, then control is about winning. A person seeking inclusion wants to be part of the argument, win or lose. One seeing control wants to win, even if he’s not accepted by the group. Control also deals in areas of power, influence and authority. Someone in the extremes of control needs, desire the control over others - and over one’s future, or the desire to be controlled – to have responsibility lifted The person who will not take responsibility for anything, an example, “Whatever you say boss.”
Affection
Refers to the feeling of being lovable, definition in your text is simplistic. An amount to which we express affection to others and desire that from