Rashard Jedaar/Cape Town/South Africa
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
We thank and praise Allah SWT and praise Him for His tolerance and goodness. We bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship except Allah. He has ordered us to honour and be good to our parents. We bear witness that the Holy Prophet Muhammad SAWS is the true Messenger of Allah, who warned us not to be disobedient to our parents: Allah has made disobedience to parents one of the major sins. O Allah, shower Thy choicest blessings on him, his friends and relatives -- all those who were tolerant of one another and who guided others on the Straight Path. Allah says in the Holy Qur'an: "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents." (Q. 17, 23) In this ayah Allah commands that HE Alone be worshipped. The word, worship, means to glorify or to elevate. Glorifying anyone or anything other than Allah is strictly forbidden in Islam. This immediately rules out any form of idol-worshipping -- be it a film star, or money. Allah further commands us to treat our parents in the kindliest and most civil manner. Even this would not be enough to compensate for the love and sacrifice they made for us.
What you sow you shall reap! The way we treat others so shall we be treated. How often do we not see this statement lived in everyday life? Look around you at some of your friends or acquaintances and reflect on their successes and failures in life. What stands out clearly is that he whosoever sows a good seed, shall reap goodness and he whosoever sows evil can only reap sorrow. The reward for a good deed is but a good deed, while an evil deed is a destructive weapon against its user! Who have the most right to your hearts, to your love and respect? Who deserve to hear your words of kindness or receive your token of goodness and appreciation? Your parents! A mother's love for her child is a du'ah, an invocation for the wellbeing of her child. It is through her love that he or she learns to crawl, to walk, to speak, to relate to others in the community. Surely we can offer them a word of comfort and our companionship! It is narrated by Abu Huraira that a man once approached our Nabi and asked: "O Apostle of Allah, who has the most right to my companionship? To this our Nabi replied: "Your Mother. "Thrice the man asked the same question and thrice our Nabi replied,"Your Mother", until the fourth time when our Nabi replied, "Your Father". (Bukhari: Vol.8, v.2)
How true is this anecdote not ? Can you or I ever repay even one moment of the time and effort our mother gave to us? Has she not sacrificed her health and her wealth to bear us ? What great pains did she not endure during childbirth ? For two years we were helpless and she sacrificed her strength, her personal comfort to breast-feed and carry us around. How many times did we not cause her embarrassment and humiliation? Did she ever complain when she had to feed, clean and clothe us? No, she served us with love! How young and beautiful was she then ? How healthy and energetic? Today she may be grey and wrinkled not so much with age, but endless hours, days and years of sacrifice as mother. Love deserves love! Allah reminds us in the inspiring words of the Holy Qur'an: "WE have enjoined on man, kindness to his parents: in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth. The carrying of the child to his weaning is (a period of) thirty months..." (Q. 46, 15)
When we were ill, she suffered with us, fearful that some misfortune might befall us. In her worry and anxiety she would cry and beseech Allah to restore us to good health and grant us a long and prosperous life. In the same way, too, a good deed from us brings joy to her heart, but something wrong fills her heart with disappointment and tears stream down her cheeks. Love deserves love! Besides your mother no one deserves your mercy, your...