Hastings House Book 'Adultery: The Forgivable Sin'
MYTHS ON ADULTERY
You’ve probably heard that 50 percent of marriages end in separation, but did you know that adultery occurs in eight out of ten marriages? This is according to Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil in her book “Adultery: The Forgivable Sin”(Hastings House Book Publishers, 1994).
With so many marriages breaking up due to infidelity, how can couples be expected to stay together?
Loyalty is not a guarantee that love persists, nor an extramarital affair is a sign that love has faded, so says Dr. Weil, a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.
According to Dr. Weil, with enough love, hard work, understanding and commitment, adulterous patterns can be broken. Other experts also believe that it’s possible for a relationship …show more content…
That may include workaholism, obsession with children, sports or gambling addiction, as well as emotional affairs.
MYTH NUMBER 2: ADULTERY DOES NOT INFLUENCE CHILDREN.
According to Dr. Weil, there is growing evidence that there is an emotional factor in adulterous behavior that is transferred to the children.
Youngsters can sense that something is wrong even at a very tender age—children as young as two years old have stunned their parents by babbling about Mommy or Daddy leaving. They may base these intuitions on seen behavior or overheard words. Year later, these adult children of adulterers will act out their legacy without even knowing it, through their own or their partner’s philandering or other dysfunctional behavior.
MYTH NUMBER 3: ADULTERY CAN HELP STRENGTHEN MARRIAGE.
There’s an alarming tendency among some therapists to suggest that infidelity can stabilize a marriage. Some adulterers, meanwhile, contend that extracurricular sex will teach participants how to be better lovers, to everyone’s joy.
But Dr. Weil says that the idea that infidelity can enrich a relationship would be laughable if it were not so
You’ve probably heard that 50 percent of marriages end in separation, but did you know that adultery occurs in eight out of ten marriages? This is according to Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil in her book “Adultery: The Forgivable Sin”(Hastings House Book Publishers, 1994).
With so many marriages breaking up due to infidelity, how can couples be expected to stay together?
Loyalty is not a guarantee that love persists, nor an extramarital affair is a sign that love has faded, so says Dr. Weil, a member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.
According to Dr. Weil, with enough love, hard work, understanding and commitment, adulterous patterns can be broken. Other experts also believe that it’s possible for a relationship …show more content…
That may include workaholism, obsession with children, sports or gambling addiction, as well as emotional affairs.
MYTH NUMBER 2: ADULTERY DOES NOT INFLUENCE CHILDREN.
According to Dr. Weil, there is growing evidence that there is an emotional factor in adulterous behavior that is transferred to the children.
Youngsters can sense that something is wrong even at a very tender age—children as young as two years old have stunned their parents by babbling about Mommy or Daddy leaving. They may base these intuitions on seen behavior or overheard words. Year later, these adult children of adulterers will act out their legacy without even knowing it, through their own or their partner’s philandering or other dysfunctional behavior.
MYTH NUMBER 3: ADULTERY CAN HELP STRENGTHEN MARRIAGE.
There’s an alarming tendency among some therapists to suggest that infidelity can stabilize a marriage. Some adulterers, meanwhile, contend that extracurricular sex will teach participants how to be better lovers, to everyone’s joy.
But Dr. Weil says that the idea that infidelity can enrich a relationship would be laughable if it were not so