Handling Interpersonal Conflicts
Effectively Handling Interpersonal Conflicts
Ashley Beltinck
COM200 Interpersonal Communication
Nicole Coy
May 13, 2013
Effectively Handling Interpersonal Conflicts Have you ever been involved in an interpersonal conflict that was not necessarily handled in the most effective manner? During that occurrence did you notice that you and the other individual seemed to be on different pages after the fact? Being able to handle an interpersonal conflict in the most effective manner could potentially keep you and your significant others relationship close as opposed to tearing it apart. In the movie “Hitch”, Will Smith states, “Sixty percent of all human communication is nonverbal body language; thirty percent is your tone, so that means ninety percent of what you 're saying isn 't coming out of your mouth” (Lassiter, 2005). With this being stated, body language, tone, and verbal language are all things that must be particularly paid close attention too and effectively utilized, whether you are the speaker or the listener. While watching the movie “Hitch”, there were a few interpersonal conflicts that were not handled effectively. One specific conflict that was not handled effectively was when Sarah found out about Hitch’s career as a “Professional Love Doctor”. This conflict was not handled effectively for a multitude of reasons. Previously Hitch and Sarah were really “falling” for each other, being sincere, genuine, and in the “honey moon” stage. After the conflict was initiated, Sarah’s body language started to change. She began to deny Hitch’s kisses by turning away, she ruined the romantic wine moment by tipping the bottle up as opposed to drinking out of the wine glass that Hitch had already prepared for her, Sarah began to snarl, both Hitch and Sarah began to become aggressive in their actions by throwing food at each other out of anger, and Hitch insulted Sarah by telling her that she had a crappy newspaper. All of these actions are
Ashley Beltinck
COM200 Interpersonal Communication
Nicole Coy
May 13, 2013
Effectively Handling Interpersonal Conflicts Have you ever been involved in an interpersonal conflict that was not necessarily handled in the most effective manner? During that occurrence did you notice that you and the other individual seemed to be on different pages after the fact? Being able to handle an interpersonal conflict in the most effective manner could potentially keep you and your significant others relationship close as opposed to tearing it apart. In the movie “Hitch”, Will Smith states, “Sixty percent of all human communication is nonverbal body language; thirty percent is your tone, so that means ninety percent of what you 're saying isn 't coming out of your mouth” (Lassiter, 2005). With this being stated, body language, tone, and verbal language are all things that must be particularly paid close attention too and effectively utilized, whether you are the speaker or the listener. While watching the movie “Hitch”, there were a few interpersonal conflicts that were not handled effectively. One specific conflict that was not handled effectively was when Sarah found out about Hitch’s career as a “Professional Love Doctor”. This conflict was not handled effectively for a multitude of reasons. Previously Hitch and Sarah were really “falling” for each other, being sincere, genuine, and in the “honey moon” stage. After the conflict was initiated, Sarah’s body language started to change. She began to deny Hitch’s kisses by turning away, she ruined the romantic wine moment by tipping the bottle up as opposed to drinking out of the wine glass that Hitch had already prepared for her, Sarah began to snarl, both Hitch and Sarah began to become aggressive in their actions by throwing food at each other out of anger, and Hitch insulted Sarah by telling her that she had a crappy newspaper. All of these actions are
References: Lassiter, J. (Producer), & Tennant, A. (Director). (2005). Hitch [Motion picture]. USA: Columbia Pictures. Sole, K. (2011). Making connections: Understanding interpersonal communication. San Diego, CA: Bridgepoint Education, Inc.