Ferguson And Terrion: A Case Study

around each other, instead of being around her, I find other things to do and basically, she does the same.
Next, I sometimes wonder if this conflict goes back and forth between Act I and Act III. Ferguson and Terrion (2014) illustrates, “Conflict moves in cycles and continues to resurface until people address underlying causes” (p. 264). I consider Act I and Act III, because although the conflict is not escalating between us, we are not directly dealing with the problem directly. In other words, even though issues between us are not multiplying, it is still present. therefore, sometimes I look at Aneisa’s behavior and so it is always fresh in my mind. In addition, this also affects the way in which I interpret her behavior. Ferguson and Terrion
Reason being that she was grown up with most of the same values as I grew up with. With that being said, it is safe to say that culture does contribute to the way we interpret and understand with things in our lives. Ferguson and Terrion (2014) said, “In social interactions, our expectations are grounded in past experience, even when we want to learn something new or to see someone in a new light, we use old frameworks to interpret and file information” (p. 72).
Furthermore, before our conflict, I viewed Aneisa as a very innocent and approachable, while she viewed me as exciting and experienced. However, as the conflict progressed I began to have no care for the relationship. Mainly because I was under the impression that due to Aneisa’s behavior, she no longer had any consideration of my feelings. Basically, at this point, I was beginning to feel like the theory, Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation, which Ferguson and Terrion (2014) mentioned, was under pressure and was no longer respected in our relationship. A typical example would be, Aneisa and I no longer were involved in each other’s life; no more sleepovers or going to the mall together. According to Ferguson and Terrion (2014), “The need for inclusion refers to our fundamental human desire to be included in their activities and to feel as if we belong” (p. 225). Consequently, it is seen clearly that my involvement
This is very clear as Ferguson and Terrion (2014) mentions, “Avoiding means you refuse to deal with the conflict” (p. 270). Avoidance in our situation I perceive to be more like denial. The reason I think this way is because we both chose to forget the conflict is even present. At first, I was aiming to approach Aneisa with a variety of way to effectively problem solving. Ferguson and Terrion (2014) points out that, “Collaborating requires a spirit of co-operation, active listening skills, good communication skills, and an environment of mutual respect” (p. 271). I wanted us to be able to sit and look at the problem closely and then try to figure out ways we can solve it. I mean, after all the end goal is to sustain a meaningful relationship. However, as a result of being shut down every time I approached her, I ended up choosing to forget the existence of the