Disagreements with other people is something that we will all encounter at various points in our lives. It is therefore important from an early age that we learn how to manage disagreements and move on successfully from them.
Children need to be taught from a young age that it is a normal part of growing up to have occasional arguments and disagreements, to fall-out with friends, from time to time, and not always to get on with other people.
It is important that you take the time to understand the cause of the conflict and why it has happened. Listen and hear what is being said, if a child does not think that he or she is being listened to they will get even more upset or angry.
As a school, it is part of our ongoing duty of care to ensure children feel safe and protected from harm. While, at the same time allowing them the freedom and space to learn how to manage conflict and try and resolve their problems for themselves.
Help children become aware of emotional and physical cues that they may experience that tell them they are getting upset. Teach them strategies which will help them calm themselves before they act out inappropriately. Children who are having trouble learning these coping strategies and who fight with others should be supervised when playing with others so that they can be reminded of their coping strategies before they act out.
It is a delicate balance to strike. When things go wrong for children it is often our instinct to get involved and to try and sort things out. But , in satisfying this instinct we deny children the opportunity to learn about taking responsibility and making decisions for themselves.
Nevertheless, there are times when things can be too hard or overwhelming for children to cope with on their own and they need adult support and advice in order to come to an agreement.
The following could be used to help sort out disagreements with children or young people.
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