and it's all small stuff
After reading the book Don't Sweat the Small Stuff..., by Richard Carlson Ph.D, I learned many techniques on how to be a more successful and productive person. By learning how to deal with preasure and conflicts in a more civil way I am able to free my mind of the daily hassels and stresses that confront me. Some of my favorite techniques were "Ask yourself the question Will This Matter a Year From Now'", "Breathe Before You Speak", "Become a Less Aggressive Driver", and "The Next Time You Find Yourself in an Argument, Rather than Defend Your Position, See if You Can See the Other Point of View First". The new insight that I got using these techniques was extremely valuable in my relationships with family and friends.
The first technique that caught my attention was "Ask yourself the question Will This Matter a Year From Now'". This is the most valuable tip for life that was ever brought to my attention. Thinking ahead, even just a month, and trying to look back "using the time warp game", says Carlson, is the most stress releving approach and has worked extremely well. Even the day I first read it! This type of understanding is completely different from what I was lead to believe
in the past because nobody ever told
me how things that are affecting me now be completely irrelevant to what is really
happening and what is important in my life.
The next meathod that I really enjoyed reading was "Breathe Before You Speak" because this is something that I have been using in every conversation that I have had since the reading of the chaper. The short pause that you take really does make a difference in the flow of conversation. I learned that being listened to, really listened to, does make me feel completely different in the way that I approch different topics because what I say is accually being heard and absorbed by the listener. It creates a deeper flow of conversation,...