Dale George How To Win Friends And Influence People
How to Win Friends and Influence People
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie can be broken down into four parts, each with a set of principles that fall at the end of each chapter accordingly. Part one starts with the quote “If you want to gather honey don’t kick over the bee hive.” He uses this quote to explain that criticizing people gets the person nowhere because it makes the other person defensive. He uses Abraham Lincoln as an example and states how he did this early on in his life but learned throughout his years to not criticize anyone. This part also talks about how condemning or complaining about others does nothing good. Carnegie persuades us to try not to condemn others, but to at least attempt to see and understand why people are the way they are. He tells us how easy it may be to criticize, condemn, and complain, but stresses again that doing these things adds no value or does …show more content…
Carnegie feels that the only way to make someone do something is by making them really want to do it. He goes further stating that the best way to really make someone want to do something is by making them feel special or appreciated. He tells us that being appreciated is the deepest human craving. He gives a quote from Charles Schwab, which talks of developing a person through encouragement. Carnegie explains that this encouragement and appreciation must be genuine, or it can do nothing but harm the individual. He also gives a tip on complimenting, saying that one should praise an individual on something specific, and not something so vague. He summarizes these statements with the principle of giving honest and sincere appreciation. The end of part 1 stresses putting the wants of others before our own, and looking at things from the prospective of others. By doing this, it will help that same person understand how beneficial this improvement may be, and in turn, create a much better chance of
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie can be broken down into four parts, each with a set of principles that fall at the end of each chapter accordingly. Part one starts with the quote “If you want to gather honey don’t kick over the bee hive.” He uses this quote to explain that criticizing people gets the person nowhere because it makes the other person defensive. He uses Abraham Lincoln as an example and states how he did this early on in his life but learned throughout his years to not criticize anyone. This part also talks about how condemning or complaining about others does nothing good. Carnegie persuades us to try not to condemn others, but to at least attempt to see and understand why people are the way they are. He tells us how easy it may be to criticize, condemn, and complain, but stresses again that doing these things adds no value or does …show more content…
Carnegie feels that the only way to make someone do something is by making them really want to do it. He goes further stating that the best way to really make someone want to do something is by making them feel special or appreciated. He tells us that being appreciated is the deepest human craving. He gives a quote from Charles Schwab, which talks of developing a person through encouragement. Carnegie explains that this encouragement and appreciation must be genuine, or it can do nothing but harm the individual. He also gives a tip on complimenting, saying that one should praise an individual on something specific, and not something so vague. He summarizes these statements with the principle of giving honest and sincere appreciation. The end of part 1 stresses putting the wants of others before our own, and looking at things from the prospective of others. By doing this, it will help that same person understand how beneficial this improvement may be, and in turn, create a much better chance of