Couples Should Cohabit before Marriage
In the beginning of a relationship, there is a lot of excitement, giddiness,
infatuation, lust and romance. As the relationship grows stronger, there are important
decisions that need to be made. One in particular is the living arrangements of the
couple. There are couples that decide to live together before marriage to see if their
partnership will work. Some people are appalled by the fact that a couple would move
in together and live as a married couple, because they believe it to be ungodly and that
sex and children should only be a result of marriage. However, there are people who do
not believe in religion, nor do they care if you live together before marriage or not
. Couples should live together before marriage because they will learn more about
themselves and each other before taking such a big step.
Couples living together prior to marriage will find out if they are financially
compatible. Once a couple makes the transition of moving in together, they will see how
easy or hard it will be to manage their money. The fact of having one household instead
of two will make it easy also all utility, water, grocery, and rent will be split in half.
Living together before marriage will help a couple find out if maybe one is too frivolous
with their money, and if the situation could be controlled before taking the next step into
marriage. For example, maybe the boyfriend will get his paycheck go out to the bar
spend and all of his money then come home broke. As a result, the girl is stuck paying
the bills for the month. The financial burden of taken care of oneself is hard, but if a
partner is irresponsible with their money, it can get expensive.
Couples that live together before marriage also will learn more about themselves.
After a couple has moved in together, they will have all of these expectations of each
other. For example, my husband and I lived together before we were married, during this
time we gave up our single lives. There was no partying at the clubs, hanging out with
friends, or any nightlife what so ever. So being in this relationship meant that we would
be totally devoted to each other. Giving up your single life to join with your partner
means losing freedom, and a sense of ones self. Living together before marriage can help
one to realize what a relationship is about, and if giving up their single life is what they
are willing to sacrifice to share a lifetime with their partner. Marriage should last forever,
so living together in advance can help a person realize if this is the life they want.
Couples will learn more about their partner when living together before marriage.
Hopefully, before a couple moves in together they will know if one another has any
manners, bad habits or if one likes to fight. For example, when walking into the kitchen
and your boyfriend is moving the dishes out of the sink before he urinates in it. This
would be disgusting and behavior like that is not acceptable. Or, after using the restroom
he does not wash his hands. The lack of hand washing could actually be harmful
especially if he prepares the family’s dinners. There are also more serious issues like
when your partner is angry, will he or she get physically abusive. If a couple, has an
irreparable problem in the relationship while living together then they can simply move
out. Living together teaches a couple about their partners, and tolerance of each
In conclusion, some people may say that their religious practices do not allow them to
live together before marriage, but I say couples should live together before marriage
because they will learn more about themselves,...