Communication
Letter of Advice to Mr. Green and Ms. Fields
Dear Jerry and Darice,
I hope this letter finds you and your fiancé blessed. I would like to congratulate the both on your recent engagement. The bible says in Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” My prayer is that your marriage will be filled with love, happiness and favor. I am honored that I was selected to offer advice on how to have effective communication in your relationship based on the class that I am taking. I have selected five areas that I believe will assist in enhancing your interpersonal communication skills to avoid miscommunication throughout your marriage.
One of the first ways to enhance your interpersonal communication skills is to identify the barriers to effective interpersonal communication. The foundation of developing relationships can sometimes be easy but problems can arise along the way. There are three common communication problems in relationships that can stem from one or both parties. Those areas are silence or refusing to communicate, placating, and playing games (Sole, 2011). These problems can damage a relationship if they are not identified and dealt with accordingly.
There is an old saying that “Silence is golden.” In relationships silence is not golden. One marriage therapist reports that people most commonly resort to silence when they are angry and/or hurt, when they are unable to communicate their feelings, or when they want to punish their partner (Slupesky, 2010). When you decide to take the “silent pill” as I call it, you create tension, your spouse begins to make assumptions, and issue will takes longer to resolve. This behavior can also destroy your spouse’s confidence in discussing further problems in fear of the pattern repeating.
Refusing to talk with someone is frequently a means of controlling the other person or exerting power in a relationship. If it is prolonged, it can even be a form of
Dear Jerry and Darice,
I hope this letter finds you and your fiancé blessed. I would like to congratulate the both on your recent engagement. The bible says in Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” My prayer is that your marriage will be filled with love, happiness and favor. I am honored that I was selected to offer advice on how to have effective communication in your relationship based on the class that I am taking. I have selected five areas that I believe will assist in enhancing your interpersonal communication skills to avoid miscommunication throughout your marriage.
One of the first ways to enhance your interpersonal communication skills is to identify the barriers to effective interpersonal communication. The foundation of developing relationships can sometimes be easy but problems can arise along the way. There are three common communication problems in relationships that can stem from one or both parties. Those areas are silence or refusing to communicate, placating, and playing games (Sole, 2011). These problems can damage a relationship if they are not identified and dealt with accordingly.
There is an old saying that “Silence is golden.” In relationships silence is not golden. One marriage therapist reports that people most commonly resort to silence when they are angry and/or hurt, when they are unable to communicate their feelings, or when they want to punish their partner (Slupesky, 2010). When you decide to take the “silent pill” as I call it, you create tension, your spouse begins to make assumptions, and issue will takes longer to resolve. This behavior can also destroy your spouse’s confidence in discussing further problems in fear of the pattern repeating.
Refusing to talk with someone is frequently a means of controlling the other person or exerting power in a relationship. If it is prolonged, it can even be a form of
References: K. Sole (2011) Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication Harrison (1993) Love Languages of Love