1 October 2012
Authoritarian vs. Permissive Parenting
There are three types of ways to raise children; authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive parenting. Most people use authoritative parenting; however there are two other forms of parenting. Authoritarian parents believe in having ultimate authority. They believe they have to have complete control over their children. If children question their parents, they will face terrible consequences such as the kids being lectured, insulted, shamed or punished. Authoritarian parents think they know what is best for their kids. They always dictate what their children participate in. Authoritarian parents strongly believe that their kids can and will be the best in school; therefore, things the kids enjoy will be limited because they believe they will distract the children from being the best they could possibly be. They demand perfect grades. If the child fails to do what is expected of him or her, the parent will do everything in their power to push the child to make up for the failure such as making up drills and tests to get their grades or performance up to the level of expectation (Raise Smart Kids). Authoritarian parents are not concerned about their children being emotionally hurt; they believe that “tough love” will make the kids stronger. These types of parents are very competitive. They believe nothing is fun unless you are good at it. (Permissive) Permissive parents are more lenient than authoritarian parents. They avoid confrontation and allow a lot of self-regulation from their kids. Permissive parents believe that stressing academic success is not good for children and that they should let children believe that learning is fun. Permissive parents are very concerned about their kids’ self-esteem (Raise Smart Kids). They constantly reassure their children of their self-worth. If the kids fail at something, they tell them it is okay they are still good. They...