“Why Men Love Bitches”
I picked up the book “Why Men Love Bitches”, by Sherry Argov, because I'm constantly told
I'm too nice to people and I'm sick and tired of being over looked by the opposite sex. I felt as if this
book could give me a wake up call and in a way it did. Argov is a very charismatic writer, that reels
you in to her text. There's certain areas in the book that seem to flash a light bulb above your head, and
then you seem to understand situations you've had in the past, similar to what's been described in the
Sherry Argov tries to really stress that women need to respect themselves and their wants over
the wants and needs of the opposite gender. She points out that it's okay to be nice, but you have to be
nice to yourself first, before you go breaking your back for other people. The book is cut into different
sections, all focusing on different aspects of the 'nice girl' and on how to change that girl into someone
more independent, that knows how to speak their minds. Throughout the book there are little snip its
called 'Attraction Principles' that basically tell you what's attractive and what not to do. There's a total
of one hundred of these principles.
I enjoyed the book and felt that it had some good points, but the book was a little too pushy in
my opinion. It makes the so called nice girl sound like a complete idiot. Which could be detrimental to
someones self esteem if they were to really absorb every word in the text. Argovs purpose in the book
was meant to be helpful, and it totally can be, but you have to know not to take everything she says to
heart. It worries me how convincing the author is because to the helpless, confused, and hopeless
woman, it would become a bible. Women who are just so fed up with life would eat this book up, and
not everything in this book is accurate. There are actually things that could bring someones personality
down if they were to try and be everything the book said they should be.
The author has no hardcore evidence that men are really manipulative, or that her techniques
really work. Her examples consist of “so my girlfriend totally tried this trick and it really works!”. I
would like a little bit more then Argov gushing about how all of her friends tried her tricks and how it
magically worked with every single one of them. Everything is based off of personal accounts with her
in the book, which works, because you feel like you can relate to the author but it still doesn't provide
any concrete statistics or even honest evidence. For all we know Argov could have made up half of her
so called 'friends' in the book.
The book still has a good concept for the girl who feels like a doormat to everyone in her life.
It's inspirational because it makes you feel like you can do it. For example, Attraction Principle 6 states:
“It's your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt”(Pg 13). This is a great message to someone
with low self-esteem because it promotes you to believe in your own self in order for others to follow
suit. It brings you together with the book because you feel a sense of camaraderie with Argov. It just
feels like your best girlfriend is giving you advice on how to get the upper hand on those darn men. The
book encourages you to be financially efficient for yourself, and to hold yourself to a high stander then
before. The main message I picked up on is that you are worth it, so stop putting a higher worth on
others and start focusing on your own self. Which is such a great thing to promote to anybody,
especially women with low self-esteem!
Something that bothered me about the book, was the fact that basically the whole thing was on
different ways to manipulate men. Which I'm personally against. The perfect example is the...