How to Survive Without Your Father in Your Life

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“She will have fourteen hours to live,” the doctor said to my family. I did not comprehend the situation completely, but I knew my mother was not well. I was four years old and confused so I simulated the attitudes of my older siblings and father. Fourteen hours passed and she was still living. My mother was diagnosed with a mild stroke and was hospitalized for several months. During those months I was thrown from house to house. I lived with my god-mother and other close relatives for the time being. I would come to visit my mother whenever I was with my father. The doctor came to my father one visit, and told my father that there was a possibility that my mother would never walking again. When my father acknowledged the news, he had a discussion with my mother and said he cannot take the stress of her in the hospital and him taking care of her for the rest of his life. From that day on my parents made a decision that would change my life. The two decided to file for a divorce. I remember when my mother was discharged from the hospital she was determined to walk again. My mother did not let her disability hinder her. She refused to become dependent on anyone. The physical therapy she received was a tremendous help, and proving many doubters wrong, she walked again. The moment my mother became financially and physically ready, she and I moved to an apartment not too away from my father. I thought everything would be fine with our broken family because he lived down the street and I was in walking distance. Then my father moved further away, and I started seeing him less. I tried to understand why my father did not come to see me, and I could not understand the reason why the distance between us was so great. Now my relationship with my father is strictly financial. As I got older, I wondered whether if my relationship with my father was not consistent, I would not progress with my life. Sociologists have studies that prove children without male figures are said to have problems later in life. It is even possible that the child or children can even develop a sense of resentment. Even though a father may not be present, a single mother is fully capable of raising children to their full potential. Single parenting may be an extremely challenging task, but it can be accomplished by persevering through the obstacles such as an absentee father and economic hardships. Mothers have to maintain positive attitudes throughout their children’s lives. Single mothers raising children to their full potential

Many obstacles may arise when raising a child, let alone raising a child alone, persevering through the obstacles makes a family stronger. Today in America, one-fifth of children are born into a single-parent or cohabitation home, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. Single parent families can be defined as families with children under 18 years old, having only one parent who is either unmarried, divorced or widowed. The causes of single parenting have changed over the years. Earlier, deaths of a spouse or divorce were common reasons. Today, having a child from a small time live-in relationship is more evident in the US, where women prefer to stay single and dare to raise the child alone. A woman and her biological children form the most common type of single parent family. Children tend to have behavioral problems when the father is not present. Most children are born to single young mothers. This means children are being born to sixteen year olds who are still considered children themselves, and are now trying to raise a child on their own. When a child’s mind is developing, they tend to watch the actions of those who surround them. When the child exhibits the behavior it is almost impossible for the parent to stop the action because they just want the child to be satisfied just as they would be. When the child sees that he/she can get away with certain actions it becomes harder to discipline the child. A lack of discipline...
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