The power of language
Professor Mary Dawson
January 14, 2013
After reading the article “Shared Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance “ by Bruce Bower It made me think twice about my own relationships and the communication that happens between me and another person; I took the Language Style Matching assessment to see how well me and another person were in synch with one and another. According to the LSM score it gives you a sense of how similar two people’s uses of words are. Bowers writes about different relationship conversations “ Love's flames get fanned when a man and woman similarly employ words such as I, it, but and under in everyday conversations, a new study suggests” (Bruce Bower, Science News). According to under graduate Molly Ireland and psychologist James Pennebaker Partners that share the same use of words have a more stable relationship. Pennebaker study shows that two people who dislike each other will often have a lot language style matching . Romantic ties benefit from matching conversational styles and emotion and manners in a conversation increases how much that person is liked according to Simon Garrod. In a study done on speed daters researchers found between two opposite sex people that shared similar types of words and speaking styles were four times more likely to show interest in dating each other. If the two people didn’t have much to talk about or share similar conversation coordination were not romantically attractive to each other. I did the LSM score between me and My husband my score was a .81, to me that seem very low I feel that most of the time my husband and I are very in synch with our communication. The feedback showed that our communication skills are average , I don’t think that this test was accurate because it’s still in testing , it also depends on if you use slang or short cut words in the text and conversation. Over time when they have this comparison is perfected I do think it will be...
References: Shared Talking Style Herald New and Lasting Romance
Bruce Bower U.S. News & World Report. Washington Nov 2010
Language Style Matching
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