Domestic violence has been prevalent throughout history, quickly gaining a disheartening reality of popularity. It seems as though it has become an infinite epidemic. The same question still remains, though, for many. What is it like, and why can’t the victims just walk away without explanation to his or her abuser and without emotional attachment? It’s not as easy as it looks. Women who are in an abusive relationship often feel as if they deserve the abuse, rather it be mental, physical, or emotional. The abuser makes them feel worthless and insane using mind control such as verbal put-downs and violent threats which ultimately end in battering. Because she knows it has physically happened before, she is in constant fear of it happening again, at any moment. Therefore, she is in a seemingly chaotic and never-ending tale of abuse. Like a puppet, she feels as if she is helpless and completely controlled. He contorts her emotions, bends her self-worth, and isolates her away from the world. The cycle begins. For instance, a simple disagreement could cause an argument which then builds into a verbal fight with raised voices and clenched fists. The abuser get’s very loud and hostile, building with anger as the fight grows with tension. The woman gets angry, too, but her anger is usually a direct result from the fear and humiliation of the relationship in whole. She may try to walk away from the conflict, thinking this will help both him and her by means of temporary separation. This almost always results in an undoubting haze of tattered resentment and rage. He, then, -with his ego relying on the fact that he has complete control over her- perceives this as a blow to his ego and all at once snaps. He goes into an insane and uncontrollable frenzy and loses all means of self-control. Hitting, punching, choking, slamming her against walls, ripping out her jewelry, aggressively grabbing...
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