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Yours Mine Ours
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Ms. Daniel
English 60
September, 11, 2012
Yours, Mine, Ours. Many people believe father’s surname should be passed on to their wives and children, just because that’s the right thing to do. A surname has an important role in people’s lives. It not only keeps a family legacy, but also keeps tradition, and shows family pride, with that been said children and wives should take the father’s or husbands last name. Views about marriage vary widely depending on what part of the country you're from, with all involved becoming more rooted to what they think is right, or wrong. For example, tradition plays a big role in most Spanish speaking families. Usually the first surname comes from the father and the second from the mother, but it could be the other way around. For instance in Spain, women do not change their legal surname when she marries, however in other Spanish speaking countries such as Latin America a woman marrying a man may drop her mother’s surname, and add the husbands to her father’s surname using the “de” proposition. For example , my mother’s full legal in Guatemala before she married my father was Ana Noemi Hernandez Quinones, after she married my dad her legal name became Ana Noemi Hernandez de Solloy, it’s a tradition we follow in Guatemala and I believe it’s important and should keep going. “I like the idea of having the same last name as your spouse and identifying yourself as part of the same family, but felt like in some way, changing my name was like changing my personality,” by Rachel Buell from the Daily Muse. In the other hand we have women that do not follow the family tradition and go with what they believe, which most of all is pride. For example, some women believe that changing their surnames can or show signs of weakness, or even ownership. They tend to feel owned by their husbands, according to “The Atlantic wire magazine” women are still being judged for not taking their husband’s last name, and “In the

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