March 13th, 2013
Dr. Sonya Fix
Formulation of Constructive Relations
The two artifacts I chose to write about are the films The Notebook and Titanic. The Notebook is a romantic film directed by Nick Cassavetes and based on the best-selling novel written by Nicholas Sparks. The two main characters are played by Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams who are madly in love. The film was released May 20th of 2004. The next is Titanic, it is a romantic film directed by James Cameron and was released November 1st, 1997. Leonardo DiCaprio plays Jack and Kate Winslet plays Rose, the two star-crossed lovers that meet on the ship. The aspect of language I will be comparing between the two artifacts is the emotional aspect and how deeply emotions play a role in language. In order to achieve a stable relationship, one must be able to communicate using constructive, affectionate and caring language. In The Notebook, Allie (Rachel McAdams) meets Noah (Ryan Gossling) at a carnival. When first meeting him she isn't interested. But after talking and getting to know Noah the two fall deeply in love. They share everything about their lives and communicate on a very deep level, just by the way they talk to each other you can tell they are mad for one another. Allie is forced to move away at the end of summer to go back to her real home with her parents. The night before they leave, Allie and Noah get into an argument and go back and forth about breaking up, which doesn't give them a chance to talk before Allie leaves. Noah writes, but Allie's mother keeps the letters out of Allies sight, causing Allie and Noah to have no contact and making it seem as if Noah didn't want to talk to Allie. Allie gets engaged to a wealthy man, but soon after meets back up with her long lost love Noah. She is forced to choose between keeping her social status or being with the love of her life. In Titanic, Rose (Kate Winslet) meets Jack (Leonardo DiCaprio) on the Titanic ship because Jack sees Rose contemplating whether to jump off the boat or not. Jack says he would jump in after her if she jumped. Although Rose is engaged to her wealthy fiance Cal, it is obvious that Rose is not happy with him, hints the reason she was going to jump off the boat. Jack is a homeless poor man who adventures day to day and won his ticket onto the Titanic in a lucky pot of poker. Cal and Rose's mother Ruth catch onto Jack and Rose hanging out on the ship together an awful lot and forbid them to see each other anymore. But that doesn't stop the two from taking off together before the ship is about to sink. There was something about Jack that Rose couldn't resist. Many would say because they could communicate in a different way than her and Cal did. It seemed that Rose could be herself around Jack, but Cal just wanted to control her like she was his property. The two romantic films share multiple similarities. Both women belonged to the high social class, although they felt they didn't belong and couldn't communicate the same they could with Noah or Jack. When Rose was with her fiance and mother she couldn't joke the way she joked with Jack, nor could she use slang or make any gestures that seemed unladylike. Allie even calls her mother out in one scene after her mother called Noah trash saying “You don't look at daddy the way I look at Noah. You don't touch or laugh. You don't play. You don't know anything about love.” Allie was trying to prove a point to her mother that her mother and father don't communicate on the level that Allie and Jack do, so how could she have a say in who Allie is to love if her mother doesn't know how to love. With Allie, it seemed as if when she met Noah he communicated with her in a way that opened her up to feel free. He showed her that there is more to life than to meet her parents expectations. When Rose met Jack, it seems that she already had an independent attitude about life that she was just waiting to...