March 18, 2012
Tough Love of the Tiger Mom
“With no breaks for water or even the bathroom, until at last Lulu learned to play the piece.” Annie Murphy Paul, author of article Tiger Moms: Is Tough Parenting Really the Answer, describes the moment of one of her sources when she had her seven year old daughter practice for many hours until she could play a piano piece perfectly. This iconic source raised an uproar in American society was none other than Amy Chua, author of Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother (Paul, 1). Many people disagree on how Asian parents’ raise their children. Some might say that they are too harsh, they don’t know how to love, or they only care about the grades. This could seem true, but maybe there is more than meets the eye. The Asian community strives in academics and discipline. Some would call them the most successful people on the planet. Pertaining great empires, “These and other hyper-powers owed their success and status in part to acceptance of racial and religious minorities who had been excluded by other societies but whose skills and labor benefited their adopted homelands. (Lum, 2)” Local communities can actually learn from the discipline and diligence of the Asian culture’s teachings. My admiration for the Asian culture has always been strong, but the lack of confidence and creativity from my “stereotypical” Asian friends has always concerned me. Master Sang H. Kim, my Korean Tae Kwon Do Master for more than fourteen years, has been like a second father to me. We’ve discussed many cultural aspects of life, even his thoughts about the parenting skills of Asians. Master Kim had his kids in his late thirties; he has already seen a lot of parenting skills from a diverse group of Asians. He described the parent’s harshness as an honor bearing for most Asian children. Tsing Lou, author of My Chinese American Problem-and Ours, believes that most Chinese parents ache to be seen as beloved geniuses, be it...