The Lens Model Of Conflict

The Lens Model of Conflict highlights one’s personal ways of viewing interpersonal conflict through different personal perceptions. The Lens Model suggests that many people view the conflict in different ways. A situation is viewed through the lenses of self, other and the relationship but can also be swayed by personal filters consisting of gender, culture, age, personal experiences, norms, or personal biases that can misinterpret the situation. In order to further understand the Lens Model I have applied a personal conflict with another conflict party, viewing my lenses and filters throughout this conflict as well as the other persons. The argument I propose that will be represented in this paper is that perception is different through everyone’s eyes therefore making it harder and blocking out ways in which people find a common ground to resolve the conflict. Over winter break last year, I had been introduced to a guy whom I started to date and being that he is a few years older he was looking to potentially settle down. Being that I am still in college it was hard to be able to make time for him around school and living two and a half hours away from home. When conversation rose about moving forward in our relationship, I
In terms of past events, we had always worked through fights and they were always resolved within the day and neither he nor I went to bed angry. As for current events in this relationship, we had made it through all of our fights even if we did not compromise on something, we resolved the issue and moved past it instead of dwelling on it. Lastly, he thought that no matter what he said he would be able to persuade my mind when he said that I did not care, in hopes that I would cave and be talked into doing long