The Impact of Divorce on Children
September 26, 2012
In today’s society there are many children that are affected by their parents getting a divorce or even separating for a long period of time. Children between the ages of 3-5 years old, will often time begin to regress against parental split. Parents often time notice that their child retreats to a milestone already passed. The child may begin to sucking their thumb even after they have moved on from thumb sucking. The child can begin to suffer from separation anxiety all over again. The child’s sleep routine may begin to change also, which can be associated with grief. Young children don’t understand that you and your partner didn’t get along, that an affair occurred or that differences were irreconcilable. Divorcing can literally make 3 – 5 year old feel unsafe and insecure. In this paper I will discuss the negative effects of divorce on children who are under the age of eighteen. According to Daniel (2012), children at the ages of 6 – 8, began to enter into the grieving process when their parent’s divorce. Custody arrangements many come into play and the child may be placed with one parent and the other parent has to leave. The child will sometime grieve over the other parent leaving. Kids will also think creatively and try to make up ways to get you and your partner back together, not willing to understand that the situation is a permanent one. In this paper, I will discuss the many things that children may go through when their parents become divorce.
How does divorce effect children?
When two people are not happy anymore being married, they often times turn to divorce. When the family has children who are under the age of eighteen, begin to see that the family is being divided into two families and they may not understand what is going on. Divorce can affect children in different ways. The effects of divorce can cause the child to suffer from abandonment from the other parent, stress, and they start having behavioral problems at home and in school. According to Kelly, and Emery (2003), states “the effect of divorce on children is being given utmost importance due to rising rates of divorce in US and now also in India.” At least 3 out 5 individuals that are marries have experienced parental divorce before the age of 18. According to a recent research, suicide has been the worst effect for children who have parents that are going through divorce. According to Amato (2001), the process of divorce can bring about many changes in a child/children’s life, such as which the child will live with after the divorce, and the changes in their emotions and behavior with each parent. Divorce can also have an effect on the development in early childhood. In recent years, research has shown that divorce can have an increase in the negative outcomes of the child when they get older, but the child does adjust well to divorce in the end. According to a census done in 2000, the divorce or separation of parent has increased by 28% in households with children under the age of 6 (Fields & Casper, 2001). Children of divorced or separated parents often times have problems with developing social and cognitive abilities once they start preschool and they are very dependent on their parents, based on older children of divorced parents. According to Fields and Casper (2001), preschool-age children are most likely to feel that it’s their fault that their parents are getting a divorce. The child then may begin to like their being abandoned and they also fell more separation than older children. However, there has been a small amount of attention given to the developmental outcomes associated with parental divorce for these younger children....